Looking into the mirror of life
Here is a slightly different twist on emotional baggage.
People distain baggage for the same reasons that they praise virginity (both in females and fabric content), fall in love with new houses, or buy new cars. There is a rather naïve belief that if something is fresh and new, it is perfect.
Yet, as many people know, a new automobile can be a lemon. Even a brand spanking new house can hide a mountain of flaws under its smooth paint. And, even virgins at the altar can bring quirks into the marriage.
In the end, we hate the emotional baggage in others for that which we carry within ourselves. We are quick to find problems with others because they are precisely what we find in our own lives.
All too often an attitude about the emotional baggage of others says far more about narcissism than it does about love. Of course, this is not to say that there are not people who come with more baggage than we are emotionally, spiritually, or physically equipped to handle!
In short, although some are smug and self-righteous, none of us are perfected specimens of humanity. We simply seek to elevate our own status through our identity with new cars, just completed buildings, and superficially flawless people.
Have you seen the following articles?
I don't want to be a servant or slave
Monogamy
Equality isn't all it's cracked up to be
Romantic rituals for the taken in hand
Leadership, strength, emotional intimacy
Liberated through submission
Wanting a masterful man
The resistant woman
In praise of Fascinating Womanhood
Who needs forbidden fruit when you have this?!
Comments
#1 Baggage vs new
I much prefer the baggage to the new. I think my grandmother said it best. The baggage / flaws are character. Who wants a mate who has no character?
To say I don't date people with baggage means you only date people under the age of what five or six? Everything and everyone we encounter affects us to one degree or another and it usually begins with the bully in school, or the group of jocks or preps you don't fit in with and it builds from there every day of your life.
Personally I've earned every piece of baggage I now own. I've lived a hard, rough life and have a lot of flaws but the key phrase here is I've lived. What do baggageless people do in a new house and car I wonder? But truly hope to never find out.
Anyway I just wanted to say Bravo! Excellent! Well put! Bravo!