My deep dark secret

I have always felt very different from everyone else, and as though I had a dark, dirty secret I was nervous someone would discover, because I felt ashamed. That is, I had always felt like this until told my husband about wanting him to take me in hand. I always felt that maybe I was a freak, and read too many books.

My father is a very weak male and it always disgusted me that he had such little pride that he would never defend himself. My mother was and still is horrible to him. Growing up, I never saw a marriage that I would base mine on. I would prefer to be single my whole life than to have a marriage like my parents'.

I always wanted and dreamed of the strong, sexy but gentle, loving and kind, no b.s type man. When I was younger I dreamed of running off to Texas and finding me a tough, rugged cowboy. The type of a man who has balls and uses them. When I started dating I usually thought most guys just have them there as an ornament because there was no way they were housing any testosterone. I was married once before very briefly to a male (not a man). I definitely never shared my secret with him for he was already abusive enough.

Since sharing my secret with my husband, for the first time I feel normal. I have such a peace inside me, a total and complete freeness – something I never thought I would ever feel. Couldn't have even imagined what it would feel like. When I shared with my husband my need to be taken in hand, instead of rejecting me, he loved me even more. It was the first time anyone had ever truly seen all of me and still thought I was his queen...lol..(his words, not mine).

I have so much more self esteem just having been able to finally tell the secret I kept for 30 years. I married this most wonderful man seven years ago, but it wasn't until four months ago when we switched to domestic discipline that I got my cowboy from Texas. Okay, fine, he's more like a farm boy from Saskatchewan... but he has promised to take me to Texas.

Tasha

Take the Taken In Hand tour

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The healing power of taking her in hand
The difference between dominant and controlling
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He who dares, wins
Looking into the mirror of life
Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doom
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2004 Feb 27 - 08:24 | add new comment | latest article | previous article | next article |

Three Additional Points

There are three additional points worth adding.

One is that, as the original poster points out, sometimes individuals have to go through one miserable relationship - especially a failed first marriage - before they discover that there are worse things than taking a woman in hand. Thus, it is not uncommon for couples to be less politically correct the second time around.

Two is that it is not just little girls who are turned off by weak men. A powerful and widely shared example of the potential misogynic damage that an antagonistic woman can do may be found at:

http://members.tripod.com/anon_junior/

Three is the possibility that, beyond verbal abuse, a woman may be as likely as a man to transgress into quantifiable domestic violence. That is among the dirty little secrets in our politically correct society that, only recently, has appeared on the public's radar.

by Noone on 2004 Feb 27 - 21:51 | reply to this comment

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