Why does physically taking your wife in hand work?

Here are my ideas about why a man physically taking his wife in hand works:

1. The buttocks are the largest muscles in the body, and usually sheathed over with a layer of protective fat. If you are going to take a lot of punishment, that's the safest place. It's far safer than whipping the back or any other part of the body.

2. They're also well supplied with nerve endings, blood, and literally surround the genitals. So the increased blood flow associated with spanking will engorge the sexual organs and actually cause arousal.

3. Leaving individual psychology and culture aside, biology and the logic of the situation means that women are likely to be far more committed to the outcome of the sexual relationship than men (women get pregnant, men don't). This means that women have anxieties about abandonment, and about whether they've chosen the right man. Giving up of control is sexually arousing for many women because they feel like they have no choice, and this allows the turning off of that part of the brain that wants them to keep looking for some better mate. (This may also be the basis of rape fantasy and other submissive and masochistic urges, just trying to turn that darn switch off...).

4. Men likewise don't like the control that women have over them by arousing them and then leaving them aroused without satisfying them. Control scenarios reassure the man that she won't be saying “no I have a headache” just when he's warming up. They also may arouse a sense of responsibility of a larger being controlling a smaller one, like the protective urge that adults get around a child – they naturally want to protect them, and may be much more loving, especially after having to discipline them (guilt). Men are also more visual while women are known to be more aroused by touch. The sight of naked blushing buttocks, well, that will arouse any man.

5. There's also the idea that women have extraordinary natural control over men simply because men are more attached to their mothers than women are typically attached to their fathers, so, a man can be easily manipulated by women evoking young fear of not pleasing his mother. Simple equalizers like spanking remove that fear.

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Have you seen the following articles?
He isn't interested in or capable of taking you in hand?
Why you should not withhold spanking!
Who wants a slave?
The erotic power of the unshackled man
Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...
Power connectivity
How I turned the fantasy into reality
Women want men who are more dominant
Ownership as bonding
Could this kind of relationship be for you?

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What Taken In Hand means to me

To me, taking Sandy in hand means more about the exertion of my will over her, my leadership over her. To me, it's not about the physical aspect, it's about the psychological and spiritual aspects of it. To each his/her own.

by ozzie on 2007 May 3 - 22:29 | reply to this comment

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