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Introducing... Saundra: “a little extra spice”

[THIS IS AN EXAMPLE ONLY. THIS PERSON IS NO LONGER AVAILABLE. - Editor]

I am a self-sufficient, strong and independent woman with a little attitude... who wants to be taken in hand!

I'm a woman of color, divorced, 44 and I live in Virginia, USA. I don't smoke and the only thing that I can tolerate is half a wine cooler. No, before you ask, I do not look like anyone on TV. What I look like is a dark-complexioned woman with short brown hair with streaks of grey. I have big brown eyes and a complexion that allows me to wear just a touch of mascara and a little lipgloss. I'm 5'5" and weigh 220 lbs.

I'd love to meet someone who wants the same thing that I want. Not just a relationship, a Taken In Hand relationship! I'm not perfect nor do I want to be. Perfection in itself can be dull and boring and I can't imagine wanting to come home to that everyday. So acceptance (both ways) is important to me. I'm not a hell-raiser but your life will have a little extra spice and kick to it if I allow you into my world.

I live in the regular world every day. Regular relationships just make me realize the part of me that is never satisfied, the part that craves that strong man. The man whose hand is strong enough to take me in hand but gentle enough to sooth away my worst fears.

A relationship? I won't lie and say that I wouldn't like to have one. But I seek something even deeper than that. A need that goes down to the soul. Straight to your heart and all of your hidden desires. That room where the door is locked and only you have the key. That you open up when you're alone and you take out all of your fantasies and line them up before you. You watch them as you display them across your mind. You have your ‘what ifs’ which come before your ‘if only’ that's followed by your ‘someday’ with ‘why couldn't that have been me,‘ with ‘maybe tomorrow’ bringing up the rear. I have the same room, the same lock and key. That's the room that I would love to share with someone. I want to become ‘as one.‘

I love romance. I love holding hands and hugs and kisses. I love quiet walks in the park. Sitting out on the back doorstep and we watch the moon rise. The stars come out and brighten up the darkness. Just you and me out there talking about all the things that we want – all our dreams, but also our everyday lives – the common tasks that make up our day. Paying the bills, grocery shopping, doing the housework and even feeding the dog. A relationship is just as much about taking pleasure in the ordinary everyday things as it is about the special occasions. Sharing the everyday things with the right person makes life so exciting and bright.

I'm a babysitter. I love having the children around me. It makes me feel young and reminds me of when my kids were babies, and of the time and care that you need to give children so they will feel safe and loved.

I guess in a way this is what I'm looking for in a partner. I want someone to take the time out to get to know me. To know what I'm really like – not just what's presented to the world but what makes me tick. Someone who will talk to me, really talk to me, someone who will be interested in me, as I will be in him. Someone who will not assume that he knows all there is to know about me. I myself am learning new things about myself everyday.

When people meet me, they see this strong independent, person full of confidence. That is one part of me, but not the whole of me. I was married at 18 and divorced at 23. I had three children, and I supported my children by myself. Now it is twenty-one years later, and I'd like to take a back seat and let someone else drive me for a change. To be carefree and ‘irresponsible’.

I need a man who is strong enough to be able to take control without taking over. I need to let the child in me out to run and play. I need a friend I can talk to and tell my darkest secrets to, no matter what they might be. Communication is so important to me. Sometimes it's not what's said so much as a touch or a look. Just a fleeting touch of the hand across the table, or a momentary look, can say so much. I need feedback.

And sometimes I need a father figure. Someone prepared to take me back to times when things were so easy and so much simpler. When right was right and wrong was wrong and rules were not made to be broken. I do need rules and guidelines in my life.

In turn, I want to know your needs, your desires, your hopes, your fears. I want to be there for you and love you and laugh with you and care for you. I want to give you joy, and peace, and contentment. With my playful, childlike sense of fun, you can be sure we'll have a ball together.

There is no one in my life yet, but every Christmas I look under the tree in hopes.

Saundra

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