The anchor of love

I have watched over the years so many say, “I am X and I still get spanked like a little girl.” Or “Why do I need this?” Here is my take.

I believe for some, this is the most direct way to show they are loved and somebody gives a damn. As long as you are seeking, direction, love and support and not just pain. As long as you can tell the difference between being spanked and being hit. Then, why worry? The fact is everybody has something they need. Every relationship has some dynamic in it.

Spanking and domestic discipline can be incredibly intense, loving and freeing. I do not care how old or mature a woman is. How intelligent, capable or successful. Nearly every woman I have ever met still has a little girl inside her. Every woman I have ever met desires to feel safe, secure and loved. For some, that little girl only comes out in the quiet of the night. For others, that little girl comes out when she is safe in her lovers arms, or when she is with her children.

Yet for some, that little girl only comes out after she has been shown there is somebody who loves and understands her. That understanding usually comes from somebody willing to put her over his knee and show her he cares. Someone who will say, “You are OK; your behavior is NOT; and I love you too much to allow you to get away with this.”

That is OK too. Because if that is what it takes to make you feel secure, so you can face the world and deal. Then more power to you. We all need a center. For some it is having a partner who is willing to discipline you and be your anchor. For others like me, it is being that anchor. It is being needed in that special way and being able to show the person I love in the most direct way possible – I am here, it is OK and I am not going to let you fall.

LAR

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Great message Lar

Lar, this was one of the best articles I have read on this subject yet. You helped me understand spanking in relationship between a husband and wife. It put into perspective the idea of loving discipline or unwanted hitting. That healthy spanking can be a boost for both man and woman involved. Not all women accept this kind of loving discipline, but those couples who do seem to be blessed by it rather than cursed, is the message I am getting as I read more on this website. Bravo Lar!

a man who will say "I am your protector, and as your husband I h

I could not agree more with this post. I do have an account here and will look up my info later on. This is exactly what I am. I am not a slave nor submissive in the BDSM way. What I want and need is a man who will say "I am your protector, and as your husband I have the right to lovingly correct you in order to stop being a run away train on a collision course."

I am very mouthy and always have been. I want a man who is not afraid to stand up and say "Stop right there".

~Portia~

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