How do you make the mundane erotic?
When a relationship is new and has a Taken In Hand cast to it any and all decisions can have an erotic feel to them. It's the sex appeal of power... for those who find power sexy.
And the appeal of power is rather a universal one as far is it being sexy. But how do you make cleaning house erotic even if he expects you to do it? You can only do the mundane in an erotic context... when there is an erotic reward attached to them... sadly I suppose. What the reward is would be rather varible and individualistic... but without that reward in there... there is no eroticism in the mundane. I wouldn't being expecting it... that is unless you can do it in your head...
SanderO
A readers' forum post by JSanderO on Tue, 09/01/2007 - 20:28
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#1 make the mundane erotic
For me mundane household tasks can become erotic if they are an area over which my husband has asserted his authority. If he's given me explicit instructions, deadlines, that sort of thing, there is definitely an erotic element to them. Perhaps it's the knowing that I could face a spanking if I haven't met his expectations that does it for me. We both work and share a good bit of the housework, so it doesn't really come up all that often. Domestically, the area where I get into trouble is not putting my things away (clothes, papers, etc.). If he uses a certain tone and directs me to have those things put away by a deadline, it's quite a turn on, mostly because there is the implied threat of a thrashing.
Lucy
#2 The reward lies in the interest he shows.
I don't think there has to be a reward. Simply obeying what is stated is erotic to some. The "reward" is that sexual appeal, in and of itself. It's the reinforcing of the balance of power. The man involved makes a big difference though. It's in whether he shows interest or not. If he will not either state tasks to be done or recognize them when they are done, then it may feel like a one-way street. For me/for us, the reward for "good housekeeping" is simply in his reaction and the affection he shows.
~HollyCakes
#3 Erotic housework
The reward for me is feeling that I have pleased him, and knowing that he will keep his temper with me and not explode if I have overlooked something, and the improvement in relations between us generally.
I'm not sure it wasn't a bit of a relief to my husband when I started slacking off a bit, he had been somewhat disconcerted by the zeal with which I went at it in the beginning, and I think I might have been overdoing it a bit, he was apt to say things like "I think you've tried enough for one day." I have sometimes compared us to The Odd Couple, but in fact he is not nearly as fussy as Felix (nor am I as much of a slob as Oscar).
Louise
#4 Not really
I don't think most of life is erotic whatever the nature of your principal relationship. Housework is kind of irrelevant as I've usualyl paid people do to it and never been with man who thinks it is a good use of my time unless it's some sort of temporary sex game, but in terms of doing what pleases someone but is a mundane task which men and women both do in relationships I suppose the fact you're helping the relationship in general and pleasing helps.
I also don't think there needs to be any delegation of housework to the woman in a takeninhand relationship by the way, not unless that suits the couple.