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The exquisite pleasure of childlikeness in a woman

I have said that I love a strong but very feminine woman, J. This may come as a surprise to some, but I also love J's childlikeness. This very sensible, strong, grown-up woman is sometimes adorably childlike. Not childish, childlike. There is a big difference. Childlikeness is fun, vibrant, cute, full of life, hope, optimism, trust, and vulnerability. Childishness is being an annoying, petulant brat, and that is not what I'm talking about (though she can do this on occasion as well...)!

One of the things that I love is when J is looking up at me through lowered eyelashes, giving me a little girl look. She does this quite unconsciously, it's not an affectation or calculated to manipulate, it is just something she does that's a part of her – one of the many different facets of her. That look she gives me is a submissive look that says she is accepting that I am in charge, and it is an acknowledgement that we both know that I am in charge and that that is the way we both want it.

When she does this, it has an instant effect, flooding me with desire and making me melt with love for her. It makes me feel loved, warm, tender, and it makes me feel gentle and protective towards her – except sometimes when it makes me want to take her in hand over my lap straight away for being a naughty little girl!

When J looks at me in a childlike way, she seems so little, vulnerable, in need of protection, love and care. It is an expression of vulnerability and trust in me. She is trusting me to look after her, and that feels good to me.

There is a lot more to J than this, of course. She is an adult, and a very competent, strong one at that – I must emphasise that this is just one facet of a wonderfully complex character that I love. That said, I'm glad that she feels able to show different facets of her personality with me. It makes life far more interesting.

I'm not sure why J's childlikeness has such a powerful effect on me (maybe someone will write in about this?) but perhaps the vulnerability and trust it implies appeals to the protective man in me? It does make me feel very aware of the fact that I am a man, a real man, and responsible for caring for the woman I love so much.

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#1 My Missy...

Sam (of Sam & Missy)

I can't help but agree. My Missy is very much a woman. Yet, there is that special childlike something - almost like she's my little girl sometimes - that just captures my fancy (and something else!). I don't know how this plays into our DD system, but this characteristic of hers has always touched my heart in a special way. Just thinking about it... Uh, I think I'll go find my Missy right now.

Submitted by Sam on Thu, 22/01/2004 - 00:51.

#2 Those eyes

This is so true!! The eyes can speak volumes. That vulnerable, almost innocent-like look with a soft and subtle smile just would make me feel so protective of her – so needed.

Submitted by Robert on Thu, 22/01/2004 - 07:42.

#3 I see it in my husband too

My husband also can't get enough of this. He says I'm the cutest little brat he's ever put over his knee!!

Submitted by Mary Lou Day on Thu, 22/01/2004 - 09:56.

#4 Daddy's girl

My husband likes to treat me like his "little girl" in a role-play kind of way. He calls me "Daddy's girl", and I call him Daddy. He likes this very much, and it has helped me to put down all of my defenses in the bedroom, and just trust my Daddy. I let go, and just feel the pleasure that never came easily to me before.

Submitted by a Taken In Hand reader on Tue, 13/07/2004 - 16:01.

#5 Childlikeness

I think though childlikeness is a wonderfully descriptive term, perhaps its a little misleading in finding the understanding to why it can evoke such a powerful response, or perhaps its just grouping all the many parts of it together.

I think you've already figured it out in what you've written; the loving innocence and vulnerability given out by a childlike woman would naturally have a powerful effect on a dominant man with the desire to protect and cherish his woman.

As you mentioned, to show that side of her personality to you in that way is making herself yet more vulnerable and is a way of showing you the depth of her trust.

Submitted by kinkiminx on Mon, 21/11/2005 - 04:52.

#6 The eyes, the voice

Kitten and I are in a LDR (long distance relationship) and we have just started our journey with "Taken In Hand". This site resonates within us. We often used terms to try and describe how we felt about things and about our dynamic. After finding this site, we would get very excited and all but shout "That's it! That's exactly what I was trying to describe!". It has a rightness to it that we have not found else where, we are happy to have found this site.

This post is one of those "That's it!" moments. In trying to describe the feelings her look gives me, my words fall short of the mark. I would often tell her that she "draws out" emotions from me. The look is one of those things that always draws out a protective response from me. Her eyes give me feelings of tenderness. She expresses herself, and I would be a brute to abuse the vulnerability she is showing me. She might get spanked while she is giving me the look, but any negative feelings I have melt and wither under her eyes. All the bad things are replaced but the need to do what is right.

Being in an LDR I don't get to see her look as often as I wish, but her voice can melt the north pole. When she reaches that place in her mind that is vulnerable, giving, submissive, I am at my most tender and loving. All my daily stress melts away in my desire to protect her and cherish her.

Women often talk about the voice of their men. They write about the deep growl, the voice of command, and hearing the "manliness" in his voice. Lets not forget the power of a woman's voice, or the wonder of her eyes.

Thank you Random, for expressing something my words fell short of touching

Submitted by JohnB on Fri, 28/09/2007 - 06:11.

#7 *Taking notes as an unmarried

*Taking notes as an unmarried, only-had-one-boyfriend-in-my-life young woman venturing into the world of men and how to make them feel happy and in charge* Actually. Honestly trying to figure out the world of men at all. Thanks for all the "men perspectives" on here. It's hard for me to understand or even guess what they want or are thinking.

Submitted by a Taken In Hand reader (not verified) on Thu, 18/09/2008 - 05:25.

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