Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...

When I became pregnant five years ago, my relationship with my husband changed significantly into a Taken In Hand one (though we didn't know about Taken In Hand at that time). He's always been an alpha male, and I'd always been an alpha female, and my pregnancy turned me in to an alpha submissive.

Jack was tremendously turned on by having impregnated me, and as my waist thickened and began to disappear, I became increasingly submissive, much to his delight. After the discomfort of the first two months, he insisted that I be sexually available to him whenever he wanted. I found this very erotic. At his behest, we tried many new positions as my belly grew. Jack picked out all of my maternity clothes, and dictated what I would wear and when. He also oversaw my diet, making sure I was eating properly and gaining enough weight to suit him.

In my fifth month, Jack presented me with a gold collar necklace with a lock that only he could remove. I would occasionally wonder what had happened to the pushy woman I had once been, but honestly, I was happier than I'd ever been, and my marriage was stronger and more passionate that ever.

Something good was happening, and we were/are both thrilled with the change. I was incredibly turned on by Jack's attentions, and loved his admiration of my growing belly and breasts. He was actually delighted to watch as I waddled around the house, wearing just enough to emphasize my new bulk.

As far as breastfeeding goes, Jack fully expected to share with our son, and of course I complied. When our son was a year old, Jack suggested that I begin to wean him (our son) from my breast, but Jack himself had no thought of weaning himself, so 4 years later, I'm still his little milk-cow. I'm now a stay at home mom, and I make time in my busy day to use a breast pump once or twice during the day, but my breasts are full and ready for Jack's attentions when he comes home from work.

We've managed to keep this aspect of our relationship quiet, but I'm sure my friends from college think my new submissive self is pretty strange. I just smile and wish them the same happiness I've found.

Jack's talking about making me pregnant again, and promises that we'll have in-home childcare this time so he and I can spend more 'quality' time together. I can hardly wait.

Suzanne James

Take the Taken In Hand tour


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Turning towards each other instead of away

It always warms my heart to hear of cases like this. So many people have a thoroughly miserable time in pregnancy, and so many couples lose their sexual connection and grow apart during and after pregnancy. In eroticising pregnancy and creating a Taken In Hand relationship, this husband and wife are turning towards each other instead of away. How lovely!

erotic pregnancy

I must say, there were plenty of times that I "wasn't in the mood" and Jack was. His tenderness, patience and playful attention seduced me each time. There was no spanking (still hasn't been!) but Jack is definitely the boss. I'm hoping he'll allow me to become pregnant again sometime this year, and we can enjoy growing my body again!

Good luck

I can imagine that you do try to keep the husband-on-wife nursing aspect of your relationship quiet. That is just so far outside of most people's experience (and beyond most everyones' taboos!) that you probably wouldn't be supported in it by many. It's so intriguing, and I find it very arousing. (I find it arousing enough just to play-act it with my DBF!)

Good luck and blessings to you on a marriage that has stretched the boundaries in a way that delights you.

Erotic childbirth

A reader has just pointed me to this article on relaxed, even erotic childbirth.

This article

After reading this article I have come to the conclusion that I simply do not belong to the same species as other women. I find nothing remotely erotic about pregnancy, childbirth, or breastfeeding. I must be from Mars or somewhere.

Louise

Another woman from Mars

Louise, I think you are perfectly okay. I study psychology and I can assure you that there is a certain percentage of women who just don´t have these feelings. There is also a small percentage of women, who (like among the other animal species) are simply not designed to be mothers.

To Regina

Thank you, that's good to know, I was beginning to wonder if there was something wrong with me! I love my children, but I didn't enjoy the process of having them at all.

In 'Brave New World' babies are grown in test-tubes, and that would suit me just fine!

Louise

Great post!

What a great post, Suzanne! My husband and I were not able to have children together (we were divorced with children when we met), but we fantasize about it sometimes. We would have loved to have experienced pregnancy and breastfeeding together. So happy to hear about your enjoyment of a very natural, loving time of life!

People differ

Louise, people just differ. I found breastfeeding very similar to sex in some ways and I enjoyed it, not sexually but because of the build up to it, the release when the milk lets down, the release of oxytocin which is a kind of happy hormone, when the milk flows down and of course the physical satisfaction of having the little baby up against your body etc. I also remember flirting with a male doctor when I was in hospital for one birth although I didn't find the birth process arousing itself. It certainly felt powerful and yet submissive because you're taken over so much. I also find my cycles erotic, the changes, monitoring when I am most submissive throughout the month and have enjoyed men with a similar interest in that. But we all differ. All part of life's rich pattern. I certainly didn't find being woken at night by babies at all erotic. In fact I felt hormonally programmed to avoid sex after birth because all those kind of psychosexual feelings were then turned towards the baby in a very natural and protective way that seems so special at the time and men need to understand so they don't feel rejected.

A husband impregnating his wife

Suzanne, I thoroughly enjoyed your article on how your husband impregnated you, dominated and controlled you. Your story reflects almost exactly my relationship with my first wife. She too was wonderfully submissive and I, of course, made all the decisions for her. Her beautiful swollen body was enjoyed and put to good use many times. I now would like My new wife to experience something similar and even more intense.

Richard

Pregnancy

I was happy to be pregnant as we wanted children but it was uncomfortable for me and although I enjoyed feeling my babies kick inside of me I really didn't like being pregnant.

During breastfeeding I did enjoy that and the sexual feelings that came along with it.

Now I look at our children and wonder how I did it 4 times.

Someone not long ago was telling me she would still like to be pregnant and wouldn't I like it too? Nope, at 53 years old I am done! I love our children so very much and so happy that when I was younger that we had them.

Impregnating your wife

Richard, I'd love to hear more if you and your new wife embark upon an erotic pregnancy. I'm now 4 months along with our second child, and loving my husband's enjoyment of my changing body. I'm larger this time and he is even more attentive and also more in charge.

something similar

my husband and i have been married for 3 years. I've always been a bit on the voluptuous side. My husband has really encouraged the weight gain that came along with my pregnancy a year ago. He never fails to comment on how sexy and motherly i look despite what the media potrays as an attractive female body. He demands that i not lose a single pound instead. Our sex life has blossomed and i've never been as comfortable with my body as i am with anyone before.
-amanda

His Pregnancy

When I first met my husband for the first time, I actually wanted to carry his baby. I had children from a previous marriage, and it was anything but enjoyable. But something I had never felt before started rise up from my soul. Yes, I said my soul because it was so intense. I wanted to become his. After we were married, he naturally took charge. He told me that as his wife I should quit my job and be his wife, taking care of him and our home. I had never felt such peace and love in all my life. Less than six months later I was pregnant. He totally took care of all my needs and I was the most precious person in his life. There was nothing I wanted that I couldn't have, all this for just being his wife and having his baby. My pregnancy was remarkable, I felt loved, taken by my husband, even when he wasn't around. After all, I had a very noticeable reminder... Every time the baby kicked, I thought about my beloved husband. I feel more and more in love with him. I felt like I truly belonged to him. My mind and spirit was already his, and now so, was my body. My husband loved impregnating me. His eyes sparkled the night he told me he was impregnating me with his baby. He was very attentive to me that night and has been ever since he found out I was pregnant. Soon after our baby was born, I was pregnant again in four months. When he impregnated me the second time, he whispered in my ear with such intensity that it overwhelmed me..."I want you to have my baby" My body connected with his instantly as we became one. Walking around, showing the world that I was filled with my husband's love made me feel so close to him. That one single act pushed me into a world dominated by my husband's love and strength. To this day his very presence leaves me breathless!!!

Pregnancy

I never thought I'd enjoy being pregnant but my husband changed my mind. He really wanted to impregnate me and I loved him so much I agreed but inside I wasn't sure it was the right thing to do. To my great surprise and joy, I found greater bliss than i thought possible. I thrilled at being pregnant and walked around with my belly sticking out with great pride. I worried my body wouldn't please him as I grew increasingly large ... but the more my belly and breasts swelled, I knew by the way he sexually used me that he found great pleasure in my body. He lovingly took me right up to the point I went into labor, and our need to share ourselves sexually grew with each pregnancy.

Simply beautiful!

I can only hope to experience a tiny smidge of what you have in your relationship. Thank you for sharing here!

Great post!

I wanted to let babydoll know that lactattion can be stimulated even if you have never had children. I am in a similar situation. But we hope to do this soon for the bond it creates for us. And yes at the same time he still is the leader in our relationship.

Amazing

Wow...I loved reading your post. It made me tear up because this is exactly how I feel about my husband. I love having his baby growing inside of me and cannot wait to become impregnated by him again...and again and again!

He is such an amazing man and really took care of me during my pregnancy. Even the nurses at the hospital commented on what a good team we were and they had never seen a man so attentive to his pregnant wife's needs.

He is my everything and I love the way he takes care of me and our son. He is an awesome husband and father. He does so many things most men won't do especially when it comes to caring for a baby. I am so blessed and could not be more in love! Hopefully soon I will be walking (perhaps waddling) around again showing off a pregnant belly filled with the love we have for each other.

In agreement

What beautiful sentiments! I hope my future pregnancies are just as blissful. DH has already indicated he expects me to make my swollen breasts available for his enjoyment when a baby arrives.

To agree with JLR, I know it's not for everyone (and the idea of it seems offensive to a lot of people!), but there are certainly aspects of the practice that are similar to Taken in Hand. Personally, I find it to be just another way of expressing my submission and gratitude to my partner, as it's just another way I'm making myself physically available to him.

Needless to say, DH would impregnate me tomorrow if I agreed that it was the right time!

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