Why I, a dominant man, prefer a strong woman

One of the things I can't stand is weak, simpering, placid women. I hate women who never have any strong opinions, and when you ask what they want to do, they say “whatever you want.” They may appeal to some men but not to me. My girlfriend J is incredibly strong, brave, resilient, successful, and yet…. she accepts a submissive role in our relationship. That makes me feel incredibly blessed.

I like a strong, feminine woman who knows what she wants but accepts me as her man and the head of the household. I don't want a wimp or a weakling. Let's be honest, I'm dominant, and for someone to put up with me they need to be strong in their own right.

I think with trust being the bedrock of my relationship with J, there is also mutual respect. There can't be mutual respect unless there's a person to respect. So I like a woman who's got an opinion to share and has desires I can enjoy fulfilling. Without that, you might as well be on your own, and you certainly can't respect a woman who's always placid or overly submissive. I respect J and what she wants, and she respects my needs, and accepts that I make the decisions for both of us. It is a meeting of equals but with different roles. I could not do this with a woman who was my inferior. I need to be able to respect my woman. That's why I prefer a strong woman to a weak, placid, one.

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Empowering dominance

Amen, my brother! Thank you, Random!

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by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Jan 6 - 03:45 | reply to this comment

Thank you Max

Hi Max - thank you for your support. It seems you have similar ideas to my own about what to look for in a partner. I am very lucky, in that my partner, J, gives me all that I am looking for. The feelings one gets from being the HOR/HOH with such a woman are truly wonderful.... (I feel another article coming on ;-))

Oddly enough, J also has distinct "personalities" she uses when she wants things, including a "naughty girl" routine that makes me want to take her in hand there and then. It is as if the rest of the world sees her as rough and tough, able to handle anything, whereas I get to see the soft feminine side that is hidden from other people... Is your partner similar in that regard also? I am curious as why women present such a tough exterior whilst being wonderfully soft and feminine in private...

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by Random on 2004 Jan 6 - 12:15 | reply to this comment

The effects of the feminist movement on young women

Unfortunately, young women are now virtually force fed from birth a feminist manatra consisting of the phrases *I don't need a man, I can do it by myself!* However, no one tells them that feminism is really supposed to be about doing *for* yourself. The origional idea was each woman having the freedom to do what was right for her. Women were told to stop being *slaves* to men. Now we are slaves only to the movement that has gotten out of control.

Young women are subject to ridicule and and harrasment from their peers for even daring to think, let alone express a desire to be in any way submissive to, or dependant upon a man. We are told that there is something wrong with us, or even that we are battered and should seek professional help. This attitude is an epidemic that has spread through women and men in all walks of life. In these days of social and family services it makes any woman afraid that if they own up to their desires publicly they will soon be looking at you across a social workers office.

I hope this helps you understand why only our partners get to see this softer side of us. It is a gift that we give you called trust. We trust that you will not crush or destroy our more fragile side, and we trust that you will remember how much strength it take to be vulnerable.

by AmberDawn on 2004 Apr 20 - 03:32 | reply to this comment

Dominant man, strong woman

I am glad I came across these articles. About 2 years ago I told my hubby I needed him to take the lead and be my guidance and my disciplinarian. I am a very strong willed woman with a full-time, demanding career. Prior to me asking my husband for this... I was a very frustrated woman! Now, I can't wait to get home and fulfill my role as wife to my man. This does not make me weak!! It is such a sense of relief to have someone else make the decisions for me at home. I have my own career, my own friends, my own life. I am free to do as I please..... to a point! When needed, my hubby pulls back the reins takes control and lets me know who is the boss. Sometimes it is as simple as telling me that I have been on the phone long enough and to hang up, other times it is a good hard spanking for not listening to him. I want this, I love this and it it has enhanced our relationship to the MAX! In fact I feel stronger than ever!

by gemsgirl on 2004 Aug 25 - 04:23 | reply to this comment

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