I understand how you must have felt with your secret desire. I had wished for a relationship such as this all of our married life. I thought however there was something wrong with me so I would push it far away from my mind. I figured it would never happen.

Then one day while browsing the internet I accidentally found this site and I was excited. Excited because it is something I have always wanted yet I was shy about my inward desires. I wasn't sure what my husband would think. He checked out the site and we talked about it alot. Then decided it was for us.

It has truly been a life changing way of life for us.

write us - we are from pakistan too!

Hi
Is there any spanking institute avaialble in pakistan?or a web site containing exclusively experiences of eastern culture?Pl let me know if a group exists or so...
idrees-pakistan

I am also Pakistani, and a great mother , wife , doctor, and much , much more. I am sorry but I often feel saddened by the condition of women in Pakistan and other third world countries, where they have no will of thier own, no indepedence or confidence to protect their families or care for the ones they love because they are so blind and separate from society , not knowing how to deal with anything because they are so dependant on one man. It is true , our husbands are important but they are not God and we should not treat them that way or allow ourselves to be treated that way. I am ashamed that you are from Pakistan, because your statement is just another statement setting back abused women by another decade. It just shows that you are scared of your man, and could not amount to anything in life other then a abused wife- No it is not okay to be scared of your man, no it is NOT okay to be occasionally beaten or spanked by him- I wish women in pakistan could be role models- Strong women, workers, mothers and strong , good wives- not battered wives who live in fear. Shame on you Saima, for making a statement that it is okay _ it definitely is not okay!!! Millions of women in third world countries are tortured and from what is written by the 2 Pakistanis on this site- if they are beaten , then they deserved it??!!! Grow up and dont humor yourself or convince yourself that this is okay.

Dear reader,

While i personally do respect your opinion that you have expressed, however i cannot find any empathy or reason to do the same for the sadness you feel. Both your opinion and gireviance obviouosly stem from need for understanding and knowledge of what this site discusses.

Both from the point of view of the health of a relationship as well as matrimony, a husband and wife should enjoy themselves as they please. barring ac ouple of religious laws. If being taken in hand is a need 'felt' by a woman, suppressing that desire will create an issue of dissatisfaction and will create pent up negative energies within her, and obvioulsy from her into the relationship.

Each stage of life is to be enjoyed, and each can only be enjoyed differently. Furthermore, being spanked is just ONE way -- different things work for different people. The issue is much broader then the highly NICHED issue you highlight, and with which you present your argument, which is abuse (mental, verbal or physical) by a husband to his wife. This is about enjoying something with your mate, about exploring relationships and feelings.

I do reccomend that you take a broader perspective, go through what this website deals with and ACCEPT that by and large the Pakistani community has become not only more expressive but more liberal as well.

Only those closed to change and new observations can have failed to notice the strong sexual revolution that is passing through the sub-continent in the past decade and will continue to do so for quite some time perhaps.

True that on observational levels, morality may have come down in our society, but this is NOT the stage to discuss and comment on 'that'. The human rights commission in Pakistan is very active in not only documenting, tracking, taking action against those 'abuse' against women in Pakistan. They are and continuoulsy do a lot of work with volunteer help from as far as Sweeden coming into Pakistan and helping out with skill as well as finances. If you mayb urged to take my advice, i suggest that you channel your energies and passion for fighting against these social, evils on 'that'platform, rather than judging women who dare.

Would you care to explore the social status of black women in North America 4-8 decades ago? Do read up and you will find that in the absence of education and enlightenment these abuses against women DID exist in what we now call Free first world.

Lastly, hats off to the Pakistani ladies here for coming out and being expressive, You know your men like it that way!

Best Regards,

Adnan

i am from pakistan too...but to read this..
is a big big surprise for me. i thaught the
times were changing..but both of u are giving
the impression that women of subcontinent..are
living in the same old life style of male dominated
society...maybe u are frm tht class of society which
is male dominated...thats why u r saying this.
There is a movement called the "sisterhood of femdom movement" which tells with facts that matriarchy will
prevail...u can see the world is moving towards a female
dominated society...i pray that the misguided galz in minority..get tru guidance..cuz women r already abused alot.
These are the facts...which tell us why women r a superior sex
Men and women are both beautiful creations of God,
but have you ever experienced which sex is more powerful.
Men may be physically stronger, but the facts which you are
about to read will explain clearly which sex is more powerful.
When a girl is unmarried and dating her Boyfriend, all of you
know that how much he loves her. He adores her, does whatever she says,
tries to make her happy, wants to please her.
All because his pride has been overcome by Her spell. But once they
are married, everything changes, he spends less time with Her,
in bed he only cares for his orgasm and then sleeps, while before marriage
sex used to last whole night.Why is this so??
This is because once they got married, the guy was made dominant by
the society, he wanted the girl to be a good obedient wife, thus all the spell
is broken and all the fun is ruined.This sexual power is deep within every
female, it needs to be braught out.You need to dress and speak in a certain way,
which i ill discuss later.
Moreover who gives birth, when a kid is young, tell me who trains him, who teaches him to walk, who teaches him to speak, who shows him the world. After reading this you very well know which gender has the real athaurity. The kid remains in the protection of females till his late teens afterwhich he tries to defy the law of nature and adopt man made laws of the society which consider him as dominant.This is the time when all the troubles begin for him and he begins to loose his innocence.These facts clearly state that which gender is more powerful, which gender has more athaurity and which gender is superior.