How I met my husband, and how that impacted my life

I was 17, was going to be 18 in a couple months. Left at college knowing one person, someone I had corresponded with for about a year, from meeting him at an FFA convention.

Through this person I met Rob.

During this time, was leaving my books and things at his room, because it was closer to all my classes... go figure... fate.

So he went off to go do something, told me not to go out unless I asked for an escort from a roomie. They had three rooms connected together, So I had to go through one room to get to the hall. The gent across the hall was a black belt, and he was more than willing to walk me anywhere I wanted to go.

Side note, I am 5'5" and I weighed 108lbs. back in 1981 :chuckle:

I got a bit sassy and mischievous and asked him, “Oh yeah what would happen if I, say, went up to the library by myself?” Very calm and cool he said, “I'll put you over my knee and spank you.”

The reason? There was a serial rapist on campus at the time.

He also had told me he was very serious about following through, but I didn't believe him.

Well antsy me... decided I could walk the four blocks up the hill to the library, was there a few hours... and walked back. Thankfully for me I was ok. Until I got back to his dorm room that is. I did my studying and set the books on the desk, was watching TV when he finally got back. He saw the books, knew I had been out, went out and asked the roommate if I had asked to be walked up the hill. Of course the answer was no.

So you guessed it, he was serious, it was over the pants, very chaste... but I never forgot how it impacted my life!

Leah

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The choice

My husband and I have been married for 8 months. For us, this is our second marriage. We were both married for over 20 years previously. We both understand divorce among second marriages. This time we wanted things to be different. We wanted to be in a totally committed, loving relationship.

I am a professional woman with a Masters Degree, my husband is a degreed professional and a very successful basketball coach. I entered into this marriage with a different perspective than my previous one. Being a successful woman with a promising career I held all the aces. I was use to making my own decisions that impacted my life, was able to be financially stable, and seemed that I was on top of my game. Then I realized that I did not want the same kind of marriage I was in for 20 years. I entered into this new marriage with a new found set of values. My husband and I had a long discussion about the type of marriage we both wanted the second time around. I explained I wanted to be submissive and he be the head of our home. We were in agreement and we both started off with the same set of values. WE set ground rules in terms of what type of things would qualify for a spanking. I had a clear understanding where the line was drawn and what would happen if I crossed over it. I guess coaches have a great understanding and knowledge of how to discipline their players. At times I felt like he was the coach and I was the player being disciplined. This was very hard at first. I admit I gave him many attitudes which resulted in many spankings. The end result was a different attitude on my part. I have gotten so good at interpreting his body language that I know when I am getting close to the line and a punishment is coming. Typically I readjust what I am doing and apologize.

Although we have been married for only eight months, I can tell you that it has been wonderful. If my friends only knew the kind of relationship we have they would be shocked. I entered into this marriage with a choice. The choices were clear. Did I want the same type of marriage I had for 20 years, where I was in control that did not work, OR did I truly want to be a loving submissive wife. For me the choice was easy, although I am still learning. The loving boundaries my husband provides on a daily basis makes me feel loved, cherished, and secure. I would not trade it for anything.

Janelle

by ladyjay on 2004 Jul 6 - 14:57 | reply to this comment

Caring

It feels great to know that someone cares for you that much...

I admit, I would have done the same as you under those circumstances...thinking he would not follow through, probably hoping he would...

I could certainly see falling in love if/when he did follow through :)

by Katryn on 2006 Jul 29 - 19:09 | reply to this comment

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