Why does it work?

I am wondering what some of you think the point of this whole way of life is? I know this is a weird question. I think I mean why does it work?

I have noticed the calming effects it has had on my marriage. We were spinning out of control for a long time, years in fact. We still loved each other, but we did not get along very well. There was a lot of resentment on both sides.

Now, things have changed dramatically. I find myself actually respecting him; more importantly I find him actually respecting himself. The more he asserts himself, the more I respect him and the more I desire him. Even if he asserts himself on the little things, when I know he is putting his foot down and making a decision, and will not be moved, I gush. And I am not usually the gushing kind. My emotional responses are immediate and dramatic. I have never felt more in love, calm, centred, loved, safe or respected in my whole life.

Why? Why does it work? Will it last? Maybe you won't be able to answer why it works for me. But why does it work for you? How has it lasted?

Tevemer

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Why It Works

Before I took control, my wife was out of control. We too had a lot of resentment and anger between us and sometimes barely spoke to each other. Once I took action, things changed. My wife responded well like you have. She seems to swoon when I put my foot down. It's a pretty good feeling, seeing your wife of 22 years looking at you like youre her hero. There's no better aphrodisiac for me.

Fergie

by Fergus Matlock on 2003 Dec 13 - 09:25 | login or register to post comments

Why It Works

Tevemer --

In my opinion, it works because it's a way whereby husband and wife take care to act like they have RESPECT for one another. It's common for men to be mistreated by women under the influence of strident feminists or women claiming to speak from a feminist position, and this mistreatment impacts the relationship. A man needs to be respected by his woman. This highlights that respect.

Bill P.

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2003 Dec 21 - 13:39 | login or register to post comments

Don't know why - it just does!

I hate to answer any question with - I don't know - but this is one of these times I just have to.

Maybe I've just read too many romance novels over the years or maybe I often think men in today's society get a raw deal and I want to help them get some respect back.

I'm sorry Tevemer but my answer will have to be it just works, because it does. I guess that's women's logic for you!

by Mousling on 2004 Jun 4 - 22:32 | login or register to post comments

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