How it felt to be taken in hand for the very first time

Being taken in hand is a phenomenal experience! I'm so astonished by what happened to me just now that I want to tell everyone about it! (It's okay, I'm not going to tell everyone. My mother wouldn't approve, for one.)

I am in a new-ish relationship, and have only recently told my boyfriend that I want to be taken in hand. Until about two hours ago, nothing much had happened. I'd started thinking that my fantasy that he would turn into a dominant man was indeed a fantasy, and that it would only happen in the event of the miraculous intervention of a Higher Power. And as I'm probably not top of God's Christmas List right now, owing to my various failings, I've fast been losing hope. Some men have it, others don't. Maybe this one's a don't, I'd thought. He has spanked me – once – but it wasn't the experience I'd imagined it would be, and he hadn't done much else to make me think there was any potential.

To be honest, I'd started thinking that it might never happen. I'd been doubting whether even after reading an entire library of books on the subject, he would know how...

Add to that that it's that PMS time of the month, and I've been feeling one-down in this relationship, and it all came to a head two hours ago. Today started badly, with my PC crashing while I was writing a long email to Alan, and everything was going wrong all day. After being frustrated over the loss of the email, I was weepy and upset through the day, ending with me being distraught.

Alan was very tolerant and kind, calling to check on me several times today. But as he has just told me, when two hours ago he found me still crying and, if anything, more distraught than earlier today, he decided to do something different. He says that one thing his job has taught him is that if you try one line of communication and it fails, you have to try something else. Being nice and kind and supportive all day hadn't worked. I was not listening to what he was saying all day because of being upset, and he decided that it was time to take me in hand. Only one problem: we weren't together, we were speaking over the phone. Did that stop him? No way!

He got very firm and a little stern. I don't even really remember exactly what he said, but whatever he said was less important than the fact that he was really taking me in hand. I don't think even the hardest spanking would have done more. He took me in hand, and he did it verbally, just by being firm and setting me straight.

The effect was instantaneous: a warm flood of relaxation flowed over me. I felt suddenly very peaceful, and I even started feeling sexually excited. I was flying, floating on air, flabbergasted. All my problems and fears just kind of melted away. It felt so good. He was for real, not playacting, and I knew it.

I'm astonished by how easy it was for Alan to bring me back to normal from the distressed PMS-crazed woman I was. With just a few words, he made everything okay! More than okay! I was grinning from one end of town to the other!

When we discussed this just now, Alan said that he could see that I was getting out of hand and needed to be brought firmly back. He said he can see that I need this kind of control in my life. He said that if a few words have this kind of power, he won't hesitate to take me in hand whenever I need it, and sometimes whether I do or not. Then he warned me to expect a severe spanking when we see each other next.

But what gets me is that he took me in hand without laying a finger on me! He did it with just a few words, over the telephone. This is a truly mind-blowing phenomenon. Think of the potential! This was such a great way to bring me back into line and make me happy. I recommend it!

Joan

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The erotic power of the unshackled man
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LOL!

I have to laugh about this one. He took you in hand..... over the phone? Not over his knee? Does it work for other women? Mine seems to need a firm hand as well as a firm word.

Fergie

by Fergus Matlock on 2003 Dec 13 - 09:30 | reply to this comment

Joan's telephone call

Joan, I know exactly how you feel! Someone did this to me recently and it was mindblowing. I suddenly felt safe, cared for and my "groggy" thinking cleared right up. I don't even remember what he said but it certainly struck a chord. I felt very spanked! it was all verbal for now, but when we see each other again this week, what struck the chord is going to strike something else.

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2003 Dec 14 - 06:36 | reply to this comment

Joans taken in hand first time

This article really struck a cord with me! My husband has done this with me for years, well before we even thought of adding spanking to our lives. It's the dominance I respond to, not just spanking (though that's a nice bonus).

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2003 Dec 14 - 16:54 | reply to this comment

Taken In Hand

Ann

I needed a man to take me in hand. I asked my husband but he was too vanilla. I went on line a found a very kind hearted man, who agreed to take me in hand if needed. We have never met and probably will never meet. But just the way he writes when I don't do things right. Makes me think twice. The other day he told me to go out and cut a switch, and stand in the corner holding it for 30 minutes and think how it would feel when he gave me 50 with the switch. Boy I did as he said, and standing in the corner with it im my hand brought real reality to my mind and feelings. I really need someone to take me in hand like that. I am a strong agressive person. So this story Joan, reminded me of my experience.

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Jan 8 - 19:46 | reply to this comment

Taken In Hand

I have also been wanting a man to take me in hand an di have found it over the internet. I have been talking to a nice man and i have expressed my feelings to him and when i misbehave he lectures me and it makes me feel like someone cares about me. he has even thrreatened the switch and belt and i only wish i could meet someone locally who would take me in hand and show me gods love and how to behaveand how to love god.

Sincerely,

Crystal

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Jan 9 - 06:19 | reply to this comment

Joan's phone Call

Ok!

How do you find a man over the phone who can do this. What web site are you talking about? Please share with the other ladies out there who are longing for this kind of love and affection!

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Feb 2 - 03:31 | reply to this comment

Joan's phone Call

Ok!

How do you find a man over the phone who can do this. What web site are you talking about? Please share with the other ladies out there who are longing for this kind of love and affection!

Please...its time to share!

Mary

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Feb 2 - 03:33 | reply to this comment

Telephone calls

My first time being Taken In Hand by my husband was when we first started dating and it was over the phone. The only thing that was better was the first time he took me in hand in person. Both were amazing and made me know I had found the One for me!

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Mar 1 - 05:27 | reply to this comment

me too

I do not have a man that will take me in hand - your experience was eye opening -- and gave me something to think about -- I wouldn't know where to begin, but it gives me hope -- thanks

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Jul 3 - 23:01 | reply to this comment

First timer

My husband and I have been married 8 months. Initially when we met we had a long distance relationship. It was not unusual for him to take me in hand over the phone. It really worked. However, now we are together full time and he still can take me in hand just with his words and tone of voice. It seems like lately I have been getting more spankings than his tone of voice. Both work actually, but when I am not listening and am disrespectful then he uses spankings to help me to listen and to submit.

I have a question to all of you...Has your spouse ever taken you in hand in public? I mean like a few swats on the behind in a secured area. Would love some feedback on this.

Janelle

by ladyjay on 2004 Jul 15 - 12:44 | reply to this comment

taken in hand in public

No. I find the idea absolutely fascinating, but think if it actually happened I would be too embarrassed to get any thrill out of it. He's often threatened it though, which I always find a massive turn-on. Why? I don't know. It appears to be a very common fantasy though, judging by the number of fictional stories that feature such an incident. Don't THINK I'd like it if he actually did it though. Or maybe I would, who knows. Lately I seem to find I like a lot of things I never thought I would like, maybe this would be one of them.

by Louise C on 2004 Jul 15 - 21:47 | reply to this comment

Spanked in Public

I haven't logged in but this is Mousling replying.

Mr Mouse seems to spank me in the supermarket weekly as I get so stressed while shopping. The crowds and not being able to find what I want and the prices they charge all add fuel to the fire. When I start locking in to the negative aspects, he threatens me with a spanking and asks if I want to be spanked in public. This helps me focus on him and not to wander off in a mood in search of whatever product I need. Sometimes I come back with the reply "I don't care!" and walk off in haste to finish the grocery shopping as soon as possible. When this happens, he grabs my wrist, pulls back to him and gives me a good hard swat on the backside. I often blush deeply thinking of who noticed him doing that and look at the floor, hoping it will swallow me up (although I do get a thrill out of it too). He has on occasion whispered to me that he will tan my bare backside in public unless I calm down. I would like to think he is joking but I am not so sure....

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Jul 17 - 13:54 | reply to this comment

Spanked in Public - Mousling

Hi Everyone,

Being spanked in public will make you timid as a "Mouse"ling. LOLOLs.

I know because I have been and it WAS embarrassing, especially when the other couple who saw it were laughing.

I would advise Mr. Mouse not to bare your bottom though. Perhaps he could save that sight for his own eyes once you're in the privacy of your own home.

I just joined this group today. I'm Kristina and in a DD relationship which is going swimmingly. I got spanked last week for throwing one of the world's biggest temper tantrums and that was humbling. My S/O says that I'm going to get it for beating up on his remote. Stupid thing wouldn't work so I got its attention by LIGHTLY hammering it on the floor and PRESTO! ~ it worked!

Regards,
Kristina :)

by Kristina on 2004 Jul 17 - 16:49 | reply to this comment

Spanked in Public

Well, this afternoon my husband spanked me in a boat in the middle of Dover harbour, which is a pretty public setting. Mind you, we were too far away from any other boats or the beach for anyone to have seen us (unless someone up at the castle had one of the telescopes trained on us). Still, it was out in the open, and it's the first time he's ever done that. It was quite exciting, slightly embarassing, and a very romantic setting.

by Louise C on 2004 Sep 5 - 23:54 | reply to this comment

Taken In Hand

As i`m reading these posts, i realize that i have been verbally taken in hand at least once in my life...but it didn`t last long. It was the middle of winter and we went to visit my dad. I left my coat in the car but when it was time to go, the temp had dropped considerably. I was told to wear his coat until we got to the car, but i said i was ok. He then lowered his voice(right in front of Dad, and said he wasn`t asking me to, he was TELLING me to and i`d better do it. The next thing i knew, i was opening the car door, wearing his coat. He was still inside talking and as i started the car up, i realized that i had done what he told me to. Well, come on, for a spoiled brat to do that...would just throw everything out of kilter....so i took the coat off, marched back to the house, went inside, threw the coat at him, said no and went back out to the car. As the front door closed behind me, i heard my dad say that i was being a brat and needed to be spanked. If i said that i didn`t notice the butterflies that suddenly invaded my stomach, i`d be lying. Anyways, when he came out, i was pouting, with my arms crossed...just waiting for him to say something, but he didn`t. We just drove home and that was that. No spanking(which didn`t surprise me since i had never had one anyways).

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2004 Sep 12 - 10:05 | reply to this comment

First times

The first time I was ever taken in hand was in public. I'd been a brat over a pair of shoes I wanted and my husband grabbed my arm on a busy street and marched me back to our hotel room--where I got my first spanking. No one seemed to pay any attention, perhaps because this was in Greece and taking a wife in hand is more acceptable there??? I don't know. Interestingly enough a few nights later we were at a folklore evening at a hotel in another city and met up with a young Australian couple. Toward the end of the evening he suggested that they go back to their hotel room and she said she wanted to stay later. He insisted and she finally relented. Everyone in our section had caught on to what was happening by then and I thought the room was going to break into cheers. Her parents were with them and her father dryly commented that she needed to be spanked, similiar to another story here. I often wonder what happened when they got back to the room.

by DianeD on 2004 Dec 29 - 00:39 | reply to this comment

Staying later

If the man wanted to go back to his room and she wanted to stay, why didn't he just go back by himself? What was his objection to his wife having a good time? And fancy her father saying something like that in public! What sort of man thinks about spanking his adult daughter? Very peculiar. Any decent father would be on his daughter's side in an argument with her husband, parents should be a refuge for their children from domineering spouses.

by Louise C on 2004 Dec 29 - 08:27 | reply to this comment

Staying later

Her father was probably expressing feelings of regret. Regret that he hadn't taught his daughter well enough when she was younger.

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Jul 6 - 18:47 | reply to this comment

Fathers and husbands

I still think it's well out of order for a man to talk like that about his adult daughter, and in front of other people too. Dead embarrassing. And why would he be so against his daughter enjoying herself?

And I can't see any earthly reason why the husband couldn't just go back to his room on his own and let his wife enjoy hersef. Why did he grudge her a little fun? He'd be a right pain in the neck to be married to.

Louise

by Louise C on 2008 Jul 7 - 06:53 | reply to this comment

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