When love transcends a weight issue

True love doesn't see size, color or even age. I define “age” as a couple who are both consenting adults.

I understand the physical issues and how they can become obstacles for some couples. Being overweight does pose issues with breathing which is something we all have to be able to do to function in life. If one is struggling for breath than how in the world can you enjoy sex?

My husband is a man who is overweight but he is well proportioned and I find him incredibly sexy. He has the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen and they can pierce right through me. The looks he has given me at times will stop me in my tracks.

There are other things that I find sexy about him in his physical features and he is quite handsome. In fact, I love to tell him how handsome he is. I deeply love his personality. He is amazing to me, with how he conducts himself in private and at work. His integrity, maturity, strength, tenderness, kindness, sense of humor and authority speak volumes of who he is.

I love how he makes love to me; he can be gentle and strong at the same time. The weight issue is something that we have worked with in order to maintain a satisfying sex life for both of us. As he says "Things can be workable if you are willing to work it out." I realize that there are people who are not attracted to those who are heavier and that is understandable. Everyone has the right to their own opinion to what they find desirable in a spouse.

For us we love each other unconditionally and it is easy to do because of how much we value one another. We just do.

When we were first married and he was slimmer we were still learning about sex and positions, etc. It was good but not as wonderful as it is now. So being thin or heavy doesn't matter to me. I have experienced it both ways. I prefer my husband as he is now because he has the maturity of how to handle me and he knows what I like and I know what he likes. We enjoy pleasing each other.

Will he ever lose the weight? I believe that he will because he has a desire to be healthy so we can spend more years together. Recently he told me that he realizes that it was his way of thinking that has sabotaged his efforts to lose weight through the years; and now he believes that he is going to be successful at acheiving his goal. I am supporting him in his efforts.

I will say this however: that I love him as he is and I don't just love him but I am in love with him. He is my desire, my best friend and the lover of my life. The man with whom I have had four children. And the man and only person in this world who can handle me.

Kat

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