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A code you can live byHane hates the anti-man culture that surrounds us. ResentmentThis reader asks a question about resentment. A readers' forum post by plumgirl1971 on 2008 Dec 18 - 16:13 | 3 comments | read article | permanent link
Needing to be pampered and cared for vs needing to be in controlTaken In Hand women tend to have take-charge personalities but want to be overpowered and taken in hand by an even more take-charge man who is fundamentally decent and kind and also treats them like a beloved princess. This can be difficult for many men to get their head around, as exemplified by this question from a male reader! A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Nov 29 - 21:11 | 6 comments | read article | permanent link
Choice Theory saved my marriageIf you know more about Choice Theory than Taken In Hand, you might think that the two are incompatible, but in fact they are very compatible, as Shelly41 indicates. How long have you felt like this?At what age did you first have some kind of fantasy or desire that with hindsight you can now see relates to your desire for a Taken In Hand relationship? A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Nov 22 - 05:29 | 19 comments | read article | permanent link
If you want your wife to give you respect, give her loveWarner on Emerson Eggerich's book. How life's changed since finding Taken In HandOne reader's amazing journey to what sounds like a wonderful Taken In Hand marriage. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Nov 21 - 15:15 | 2 comments | read article | permanent link
Only been a week...How soon did you notice changes when you and your spouse found Taken In Hand? A readers' forum post by Loria Amnekia on 2008 Oct 30 - 06:41 | 8 comments | read article | permanent link
'Compliant': folding togetherIs your wife compliant? A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 20 - 22:45 | 6 comments | read article | permanent link
How can a man embrace his vulnerability in a Taken In Hand relationship?This reader wants to know how the wife in a Taken In Hand relationship shares the responsibility for the relationship. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 15 - 12:52 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
From exhausted single mother to happy Taken In Hand wifeOne of the benefits of Taken In Hand is that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 5 - 05:44 | 3 comments | read article | permanent link
Progress through the years...?How has your relationship changed since you first found Taken In Hand? A readers' forum post by pericles on 2008 Sep 16 - 06:16 | 10 comments | read article | permanent link
Fierce womenA powerful piece by Hane. Being the head of the household as a man with ADDHow can a man with significant attentional difficulties possibly take (and keep) his wife in hand? M.D. replies. Is discipline a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship?Christelle seems to be under the misapprehension that discipline is a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship. What happened when I said he can take me whenever he wants meAnyone thinking of adopting this policy of availability to their husband should read this piece. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Aug 16 - 01:53 | 16 comments | read article | permanent link
Sometimes a good beating does both of you goodAs this writer says, it is not a matter of fault-finding, but connecting or reconnecting. A readers' forum post by Whipit on 2008 Aug 15 - 01:39 | 22 comments | read article | permanent link
Some advice for men seeking a womanLibby says don't give up. Forget 'ideal' - look for the realInstead of being with someone with whom you have to act a part, find someone who loves and accepts the real you. My journey so far, what I've learned, and how it's going - any advice on how to continue?This reader's experiences are worth bearing in mind if you are seeking a Taken In Hand relationship. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Aug 10 - 19:00 | 4 comments | read article | permanent link
What's wrong with weaknesses?Louise calls herself weak, but in doing so reveals her strength. A readers' forum post by Louise C on 2008 Aug 7 - 07:58 | 12 comments | read article | permanent link
Subtle resistance?This husband seeks feedback on a problem in his marriage. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Aug 6 - 01:50 | 13 comments | read article | permanent link
Is it ever OK to FORCE your wife to do something?What if a wife really really doesn't want to do something her husband tells her to do? Is forcing her to do it OK in a Taken In Hand context? DeeMarie examines this important issue. Struggling with societal indoctrination and my relationship desiresHaving worked in a battered women's refuge, Shelly is wrestling with her Taken In Hand desires. Is it always wrong to hit a woman? A readers' forum post by Shelly41 on 2008 Aug 2 - 22:40 | 15 comments | read article | permanent link
Would this be abuse or just taking her in hand?A question from Naomi, who is new to the site. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Aug 2 - 12:56 | 16 comments | read article | permanent link
An unexpected benefit of our Taken In Hand relationshipRoger Gibson on how his Taken In Hand marriage has helped him in areas of life other than just his relationship with his wife. Freedom in letting goLetting go can be freeing – but sometimes you can end up with a broken coccyx. My treasureDreamwalker with a delectable post on the wife as property idea. How to understand and appreciate a womanDreamwalker enthuses about women, explaining to men that the way to get everything you want in a Taken In Hand relationship is to make your wife feel safe. Taken In Hand is not fair but it is fun - and justBob TC on the subject of fairness vs justice. Watch what she does, not what she saysSo many women clearly respond sexually to take-charge men who take care of them and don't expect them to be equal in all ways in the relationship, while thinking that they want a pro-feminist man and a thoroughly egalitarian relationship. And when they find their egalitarian man, they don't want him! What a man!A nice example of how a man completely confident in his masculinity was able to defuse a potentially dangerous violent encounter. The long journey to Taken in HandJim R observes that the man feminists think they want is not the kind of man who actually excites them sexually.. The Feminine Mystique, by Betty Friedan: a book reviewLouise is on top form in this withering review of The Feminine Mystique. Entitled to all of her husbandAnother steamy piece by CarlF: you won't want to miss this! Jeopardized dailyHow might watching Jeopardy help a couple maintain their connection? Bewitching SamanthaYou won't want to miss this enchanting article. Cat whispererFeline Ophelia on her husband's cat whispering. Telling him things that you can't tell himCarlF with another idea that many couples will love. Romance novels, good girls and mothersAn absolutely fascinating, must-read article by CarlF. |