There is a natural flow to Taken in Hand relationships. These are not forced issues.
Just as a woman can be unnaturally submissive—doting on a man's every whim—so too can a man be unnaturally dominant in demanding that his every whim be satisfied. Taken in Hand is about the relationship not about the self.
For the man, there are times to take a stand and not budge one inch. At other times, it does not much matter.
Only an absolute fool thinks that he will be in charge of everything all the time. The challenge is to separate the wheat—the things that count—from the rest of the stuff—the stuff that does not matter.
Genuinely putting the woman first is seldom a mistake.
For example, there have been times when I have been quite bossy and demanded that my wife purchase new underwear. I have, literally, taken her to the store to purchase new bras.
The concerns cannot be superficial—telling a woman what to wear and when to wear it. It must be authentic—from the heart. Whether taking a woman to the store to purchase new knickers or telling her to take them off for a spanking, a woman has to know that a man honestly cares about her and their relationship more than his boutades.