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My intellectual equal wanted me to take control

I met the one I will call "N" about 1997. I knew she was at least my equal in so many things. When we competed with board games and computer games, she had to win! She always knew more about computers and she was good with people. I was very happy with the competative nature of her personality.

But she also wanted something more... Something a sexual partner hadn't been able to satisfy. She wanted a man in her life to "take" control of her sexual fantasies. At first I was unsure of how safe a man can be if he succumbs to his partner's fantasies, especially those of total sexual dominance.

I am a man of peace and nature.. I write poetry and play guitar. Still, N asked me to help her live out those feelings she had suppressed for all her years.. I even had her put in writing that it was consensual..

She opened up a part of me that I never knew was there.. I took total control of our physical relationship. She called it "the Keith sex rules". I think it was just as much, if not more the N rules.

I remember many mornings waking up with her next to me, she still wearing the rags of what used to be her clothes, being told what a perfect lover I was. I never felt more alive and happy, knowing I was being for someone what they needed to feel alive and in love.

I know now that a man can be the most man he can be... and never hurt or endanger another. I know now how strong love can be between two, how much two can want and need each other. I applaud this website and the courage those who need post their feelings, out where anyone can question them.

Alas, my partner passed away suddenly from a heart defect 4 years ago. She is with me every day, and I hope one day to have another partner with those feelings, love unabated and partnership eternal.

I wish all who seek these fellings to find all they need. I know now that I want to be for another what I was for one before. It is hard to see these attributes in women I meet. This website is the only one I have ever seen that addresses these wants. I hope just one pair of lovers find what I did.

GyroKeith

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Comments

#1 Your experience

Hi Keith,

thank you for sharing your wonderful experience! You certainly had a marvellous time together.

I hope that keeping it in your heart will strengthen and encourage you!

And I hope that you'll find a new fulfilling love whenever time is right for it!

Best wishes

Jennifer

#2 Thank you

Thanks for a very loving, touching post! I'm so sorry that you lost your beautiful woman. I agree with you that she is with you each and every day. A love and bond like that will never die or go away.

Just reading your post made me realize yet again how very lucky I am to be married to such a wonderful, loving, dominant man. I don't want to ever take him for granted because life is so very fragile.

Best wishes and good luck in your search for another relationship. I hope you find someone else to share your life with.

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