In today's world, men don't have much opportunity to showcase their strength to women. While during the Paleolithic era men would, we imagine, demonstrate their physical prowess to their grateful mates every day by fighting and killing massive animals, climbing trees, carrying heavy rocks, wood and water and actively protecting their dwellings from danger, today's men have it, let's say, a little easier. None of the daily activities we do each day to survive are particularly physically difficult. A woman is unlikely to swoon when a man butters a toast or makes a coffee (unless he does it for her, but that's for a rather different reason) and hunts himself a lunchbox from the fridge before he heads off to sit in his comfy car in order to sit for another eight hours in the office in front of a computer, and then sits some more in front of a TV, flexing his thumbs on the remote. It's not quite the same thrill to see him do that as if he and his pals dragged home, say, a mammoth. Or even a deer.
Even though we live mostly in a physically low-challenge environment, men are still, on average, at least 50% stronger than women, at least where their upper body is concerned. The strongest woman in the world gets easily beaten by a man of average fitness. I watched in fascination this video. The woman, looking like the female version of The Incredible Hulk, loses three times to rather scrawny-looking men—wins only once on her first try. Yes, we are, physically speaking, the weaker sex, and that's fine. We should never compare ourselves to men in this department—we are just made differently. And we much appreciate knowing that the guy next to us has some muscle power, and that he'd protect us from any threat much better than we could do ourselves. Yet there are so few opportunities for us women to see how much stronger our male counterparts really are that we (at least myself) appreciate even the most modest display of muscle power and physical control, such as opening a lid of a tough jar or carrying a heavier grocery bag from the car. Is this why we like men with blue-collar jobs so much? Or men that are good with DIY, or men that don't drive an automatic? Manual jobs are, however, often not the best-paid jobs, so the more educated and wealthier the man, the less likely he is to show his lady any upper-body bulges. And I think we are all missing out as a result, because even though we sport a civilized veneer, we still have our caveman brains that react as strongly to the same stimuli as they did 100,000 years ago. Physical fitness still rules.
So what's the solution for the office-bound man? I think there are more than one might think. Sports, obviously, but pick those that your woman can also participate in, at her own pace, or where she can be a spectator. It doesn't help too much if you just bring home a bag with sweaty trainers and dump it on the floor! She has to see you in action. I fell in love with my man when we decided to go rock-climbing together on an indoor climbing wall. Up till that point, he was only a friend. I was somewhat interested in him, but there were no massive sparks, even though he was kind, very intelligent, funny and a true gent right from the start. But when I saw him climb up an overhang seven meters above me like a monkey while I struggled to even stay put on the wall (even though I am quite fit), boy, did it do wonders for our chemistry! I eventually managed to get stuck at about two meters above ground, and, afraid to jump off, I called him to the rescue. He swiftly and gracefully climbed down the seven meters and reached out to take me down, holding me firmly as he lowered me onto the floor. Damsel in distress was rescued, and falling head-over-heels. :)
Pick up your woman! Throw her over your shoulder, squeeze her, play-fight with her, pin her down. I've always really wanted all this, but there were not that many men willing to provide these things! Now I feel very lucky to have a partner who is happy to shake me around a bit every day. It's fantastic to be around such a fit and strong man. If your girl is too heavy for this stuff, spank her so that she loses a bit of weight! :) And if you're not fit enough? Well, another excuse to head to the gym. Or to the dance-floor—you don't need to be a weight-lifter to be a strong lead for your lady. You can be eighty years old and if you know your moves and hold her firmly, she will happily follow, relaxing under your control.
You don't have to be too overt with your strength display all the time—even subtle gestures work. I used to have a boyfriend who, whenever he was passing me in a narrow space (say, a doorway), would hold me firmly for a brief moment just to steady me as he moved along. It was a small gesture, but the meaning of it was big: I've got you, you are safe. This attitude permeated the relationship, most of the time, and I loved him very much. Why we split up is another story, but while it lasted, I definitely felt “taken in hand”.