Someone on another forum rightly said that husbands in Taken In Hand relationships “are not worried about oneitis and don't dread their wives.”
True. We do not worry about oneitis and we don't fear or dread our wives or women in general. There is nothing to fear. Worrying about oneitis is weak. It's defensive.
Women are not the enemy, they are just women. Some in the “Game” community have an exaggerated view of women's power. In fact women are so easy to render powerless, and they want to be rendered powerless—by a good man who uses his power in morally good ways. Take and keep a woman firmly but lovingly in hand and she is putty in your hand. Ask any husband in a Taken In Hand marriage.
If you dread or fear women or you have a defensive, negative, critical frame with respect to them, work on getting stronger. When you are stronger you won't need that defensive frame.