Men in Taken In Hand relationships don't fear women

Men in Taken In Hand relationships don't fear women

Someone on another forum rightly said that husbands in Taken In Hand relationships “are not worried about oneitis and don't dread their wives.”

True. We do not worry about oneitis and we don't fear or dread our wives or women in general. There is nothing to fear. Worrying about oneitis is weak. It's defensive.

Women are not the enemy, they are just women. Some in the “Game” community have an exaggerated view of women's power. In fact women are so easy to render powerless, and they want to be rendered powerless—by a good man who uses his power in morally good ways. Take and keep a woman firmly but lovingly in hand and she is putty in your hand. Ask any husband in a Taken In Hand marriage.

If you dread or fear women or you have a defensive, negative, critical frame with respect to them, work on getting stronger. When you are stronger you won't need that defensive frame.

Caleb

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Honoring each other

This sureness or fearfulness is a huge difference between men. That we are animals does not detract from our humanity and individuality. Love is not corrupting or poisoning. I am like other women, and I am one of a kind, and my husband loves me unreservedly for both. He does not view my nature as a bitter pill or a source of disillusionment to bemoan and begrudgingly make do with. He does not suppose that I'm looking for a way to become a fat slob b*tch and his love will be my excuse to get to be one. He knows that I want to be the best I can be and that I love him with my whole heart.

Um

Well said!

Hear, hear, Um. Well said! That is exactly how I feel too. I am so thankful that my wonderful husband loves me and thinks I'm special. I feel a bit sorry for some of those men writing about oneitis. They must be in a lot of pain.

Nope.

Caleb, you have misunderstood the seduction community by a long shot.

First, oneitis is not being in love with a woman, it is depending on her, so much that you become weak and when she leaves you because of that, you feel devastated. This is why oneitis is thoroughly discussed. When you are in a healthy relationship with a woman, that's called LTR (Long Term Relationship).

Second, the seduction community doesn't give any power to women. If anything, it takes all the power away. Women are objectified and then played like toys. Players may seem like they are catering to women's wants, but what they actually do is to follow the path of least resistance to the bed.

Scaredypants

Doesn't the seduction community exist because the men in it fear they won't get laid? Aren't players always pouting about how everyone and their grandma deceived them about what women want and they're only just now bravely facing the awful truth? (And will you please tell us what that awful truth about women that women don't know themselves is, Zephyr?) If players have to call "a healthy relationship with a woman" an LTR, they can't be all that secure.

Um

Well...

Quote: "Doesn't the seduction community exist because the men in it fear they won't get laid?"

They don't fear they won't get laid, they know for sure they won't, unless they work hard at it. The seduction community attracts those guys to whom getting laid does not come naturally.

Quote: "Aren't players always pouting about how everyone and their grandma deceived them about what women want and they're only just now bravely facing the awful truth?"

Yes.

Quote: "(And will you please tell us what that awful truth about women that women don't know themselves is, Zephyr?)"

This is a can of worms which is best left closed. Trust me on this.

Quote: "If players have to call "a healthy relationship with a woman" an LTR, they can't be all that secure."

Don't read too much into it. It's just that the seduction community loves acronyms.

Agreed...

I completely agree with the article. Women should not be feared by men, and you can delude yourself that there's no fear in the Game but it's there alright. It's fear of a power women don't in reality have. These guys just think they do because they've failed to handle a woman well and she's dumped them or cheated on them. I don't fear women, I love them. They are so cute. You just have to show em who's boss and make her princess dream a reality. You can't take the princess out of the girl but you can easily make her treat you the way you want if you know how to handle her.