A question often asked is how, in Taken In Hand relationships in which there is an element of corporal discipline, do the husband and wife think about the fallibility of the husband? Is he deemed infallible? Is there an assumption that the woman is more fallible than the man? If not, why is the punishment all one way?
The reason why I get spanked and my husband doesn't is that I like being spanked and he doesn't. It has nothing to do with him being infallible, which he certainly isn't, and I find that an applling notion. I have never met an infallible man and wouldn't want to. I know men like that exist in DD fiction, but such a perfect creature would be extremely trying to have about the house in real life.
I would simply hate having to spank my husband. It would make me feel very uncomfortable and embarrassed and it would also be a big turn-off for me. If he felt that way about spanking me it would be a serious problem for us, but happily for me he doesn't. It gives him satisfaction to wallop me when I've done something that annoys him, whereas it wouldn't give me any satisfaction to whack him if he'd annoyed me. And he would absolutely hate it.
It's not about him being better than me, or not ever making mistakes. It's about what suits us. I totally agree with the person (I think it was fortysomethingwife) who said “If our positions were reversed I could find as many reasons to spank him as he does to spank me.” It's purely about fulfilling our personal needs; it has nothing to do with him being infallible—God forbid.