Is this infantilising for the woman?
Not at all. These relationships are between two adult individuals each of whom takes responsibility for his or her own actions. Taken In Hand wives are perfectly competent, capable adults, and there is nothing in their relationship that infantilises them or reduces their ability to function in the normal adult world. This is nothing to do with the idea of a childish, irresponsible faulty woman needing a parent-like figure to tell her what to do.
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