It is sometimes erroneously suggested that Taken In Hand relationships do not involve real control, merely men pretending that they are in control, or that Taken In Hand control is merely a matter of playing games or amateur dramatics.
Male authority in a Taken In Hand relationship exerts erotic control over sexual activities and many or most of life's other decisions. Does that make what we do a game? No!
There can be nothing more real than a Taken In Hand relationship. Indeed it is more real than virtually any form of a BDSM relationship because it is entirely sustainable. No one “gets into character” to play anything, and then reverts to something else. So there are no “amateur dramatics.”
Instead, our control infuses life with eroticism. And we strive to make both parties happy, indeed we eroticize and then resolve conflict with lovemaking. So our lives revolve around our relationship and its intensity.
We are fully present to each other.