Is Taken In Hand about discipline or punishment?
No. Taken In Hand is about using the thrill of the husband firmly wearing the trousers in the relationship, to keep the marriage delectably hot, sexy, joyful, happy and interesting for both spouses. That is what Taken In Hand is about.
In many or perhaps most Taken In Hand relationships, there is no physical ‘discipline’ or ‘punishment’ (such as spanking) at all. Many Taken In Hand folk have no interest in ‘discipline’ or ‘punishment’ at all, and complain whenever anyone posts anything on this site about ‘domestic discipline’.
In some Taken In Hand relationships, ‘discipline’ or ‘punishment’ does play a part in the relationship, but it is not the focus of the relationship. The relationship is not about ‘discipline’/‘punishment’.
Some Taken In Hand inclined husbands abhor discipline and regard any man who would hit a woman (including OTK) as beneath contempt. Others would not countenance a relationship in which they did not have consent to ‘discipline’ or ‘punish’ the woman.
Where ‘discipline’ or ‘punishment’ is a feature of a particular Taken In Hand relationship, it adds to the relationship as opposed to being the focus of the relationship. It is just one way some husbands keep their wife in hand.
As explained more fully here, Taken In Hand life is not an endless round of bad behaviour and punishment or rules and consequences, even in cases where ‘discipline’ or ‘punishment’ is a part of the relationship. The Taken In Hand woman is an adult and perfectly capable of functioning as such. She does not need to be held accountable to get her to behave like a half-decent human being. Nor does she need to be endlessly disciplined by a long-suffering man. We all make mistakes and do the wrong thing sometimes, but the same is just as true of men as it is of women.
The reason some Taken In Hand couples employ discipline or punishment is not that the woman is a lesser person than the man and needs her behaviour corrected in a way that could not equally apply to the man. Nor is it that the man wants an unhealthy wish to criticise and punish her legitimised. He is more likely to feel protective of her! The main reason is that the two individuals connect erotically very powerfully through the control that is being wielded. There are so many other ways of remaining firmly in charge, though, and when you make discipline the focus of your relationship, you tend to forget about other ways of maintaining control, some of which can be quite delectable.
If you are that way inclined, discipline (in moderation) can be extraordinarily erotic, and extraordinarily intimate. If you get into an endless round of bad behaviour and punishment, and that works for you, great; but for most people, that would be destructive rather than constructive. For many non-spankos, that would become a real drag, or feel like a game, or be just plain exhausting.
In summary, no, Taken In Hand is not about discipline, but some Taken In Hand folk do very much enjoy the thrill of discipline.
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