I should by now know better than to make rash statements on this site, because fate has a way of catching me out at times like this. Nevertheless, a couple of days ago I posted a message to the Yahoo group in which I confidently stated that my husband's influence over me waned once he was (as he is at the moment) overseas. Long distance control, I declared, had no influence over me at all.
So yesterday afternoon my husband rang up to talk to us, and the children got to the phone first. While listening to their innocent prattle, my husband deduced (correctly) that I had done something that he had expressly forbidden me to do, and that he feels very strongly about. When I came on the phone he charged me with this, and I panicked and hung up the phone. He rang again, and I let the children answer it and refused to talk to him, he rang back a third time and no.2. son came upstairs (where I was pretending to be busy) and said to me “Dad says if you don't come and talk to him right away, he's going to be really angry with you.” So I went. He spoke to me sternly but calmly, and my panic subsided somewhat.
This morning I got an email from him saying “Do you still love me?”, so I emailed him back saying yes I loved, him and I was sorry I hung up the phone, but I'd panicked because I thought he was going to be really angry with me and start shouting or something. He replied saying “You don't need to worry, I was very angry, but this is the New Era of Detente and we'll work it out (or at least your bottom will). It might have to be the all-week spanking this time.”
So here I am in a thoroughly chastened mood, and he's 5000 miles away and hasn't even laid a finger on me (yet). Why did I say he had no influence over me at a distance? I might have known it was asking for trouble.