I have been with my love for a little over a year now and we—and yes, I mean we—have decided that this type of relationship would work wonders for us. We have not had problems in the year other than a little crankiness from time to time on both of our parts. I am a very assertive female working in a very male-dominant field. I have to make sure that the men I work with never see a moment of weakness on my part, otherwise all respect is lost.
I am over 40 and I have spent my adult years wondering what was missing in my life, and never quite feeling whole and happy. I met this beloved man and we became friends quite quickly. Friendship became more and now we are together. The greatest thing that I would like to share here is this. My man mentioned this type of relationship to me almost immediately after we became intimate. I have always had a healthy sexual appetite and thought well maybe he is a little kinkier than the average Joe. We discussed and at the time it just didn't seem right for me. Oh my, how times have changed.
He saw in me what I needed. He actually took the time to look. No one in my past relationships ever took the time to see inside me... to look into my heart. He did. He requested that I write out what my rules would be and so I did. There are two things on my list that I would not be able to stand:
1. No hurting of each other's heart.
2. No other outside persons involved.
I can't tell you the relief and love I feel for my love. He has nurtured me for a year, allowing me to find for myself what it was I was needing. He gave that to me without pushing or demanding. He had seen what my needs were and knew that he had to be patient with me until I saw them as well. It just amazes me that He saw it long before I did.
I have given myself to him, body, mind and soul. He is the most loving man I have ever known and I am the luckiest woman in the world to have been able to cross paths with him.
One other thing, for those who have contributed to this site—thank you. Of course, like everyone else, I don't always agree with everything I read here, but I cannot express to you how much you have helped me understand that I am not a weirdo, freak, unstable or any other adjective you might want to hurl! Not that I had to have validation, but it is nice to know that there are others that are living and loving in a beautiful healthy relationship. I am 100% woman in love with a 100% man who, by the way, adores the ground I walk on but doesn't have one nanosecond's worth of trouble taking me in hand. Respecting him is mandated, not by his words demanding that I do so but....simply by his presence, actions and love.
I am so blessed.