Recently, an article appeared on this site regarding how to tell if a woman would like to be controlled. I have an observation that I think is foolproof and not for the faint of heart.
Let’s say your initial screening hints that a particular woman might like to be controlled. If the eyes are the windows to the soul, then such a woman looking into the eyes of a take-charge man should feel a “Je nais se quoi” connection. The trick is for the man to establish eye contact and hold it for more than a beat or two and to give her a subtle opportunity to acknowledge her nature quietly to him. Sustained eye contact is defined as that condition where a suitable woman becomes either fully engaged for an uncomfortable length of time or she has to look away because of rising discomfort. Between a take-charge man and a woman desiring a man's control, sustained eye contact will generally register complementary personality on a nonverbal level.
A person’s frank gaze has weight and muscularity. You remember them, the stern catholic school nun who commanded you to look into her eyes to see if you were trying to lie; the steel-eyed used car salesman; the ultra-benevolent fundraiser, the soft-spoken teacher who teaches all the troubled kids and never raises his voice or have problem that would send other teachers into retirement. These are all people who seem to possess some innate ability to make us move in ways that belie our original intent—be it to lie about not doing homework; to make an untimely car purchase; or to write a check for $200.00 when a determination had been made not to contribute a dollar above $10. For all intents and purposes, these people might not possess a dominant bone in their bodies, but they possess a skill of maintaining eye contact until you flinch out of shear discomfort, heading towards terror. You are suggestible in their presence because they look into your being and see what is obscured from the casual observer. They appear to have the ability to see the fake, the phoney. It’s like going to confession.
To the right kind of woman, sustained eye contact sends an unequivocal message of acknowledgement, connection, attention and empathy. It says: I am feeling you emotionally, looking into your eyes to hear what your lips have no reason to convey—to cause you to drop the guard that separates strangers.
Two important observations:
One, eye contact is not the same thing as staring. No woman responds positively to a stare, be it one filled with antagonism or one of mindless indifference. But, sustained eye contain in the hands of a take-charge man yields instant dividends. It registers your emotional presence; it demands attention, and it hints to a wellspring of control flowing just beneath the surface.
Two, if there is more than a generation of difference in age, then the woman's apparently positive response could just be a desire to be deferential to one’s elders. So you need to be close in age for this to give you the information that the woman responds positively to control.
Sustained eye contact takes practice, but once you realize that you can cut through the exterior and touch people in a way that, quite literally, forces them to deal with you in a more courteous, expeditious, and subservient manner, your dominant presence is maximized. And for a true dominant male, dominance gained is tough to relinquish.
As I said, sustained eye contact is not for the faint of heart; but shouldn’t a dominant man’s personality be able to initiate and handle this level of communication. If not, perhaps his dominance is contrived and only aimed at the self professed, such as those who register as submissive women in obvious places.