How can I describe this kind of relationship—for example, when talking to friends, co-workers or someone I'm dating—without sounding weird or kinky?
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How about this?:
The kind of relationship I personally prefer is one in which the husband is the one wearing the trousers. Most people prefer a strictly equal 50-50 relationship but I tried that kind of relationship and it just didn't work for me [or: but I've never quite seen the appeal of that kind of relationship]. It felt [or would feel] more like a business partnership or a platonic house-share/flatmates/roommates relationship than an intimate relationship. Why be married if the relationship is more like a platonic business relationship?
For me, the husband wearing the trousers in the relationship makes the relationship a lot more exciting. It makes the spouses more aware of themselves as being man and wife rather than business partners or roommates. It's also more fun! Not for everyone, obviously, but I must confess I do find it strangely appealing.
No, I'm not talking about the kind of relationship in which a put-upon down-trodden long-suffering wife serves the every whim of a narcissistic husband. That sounds very dreary/dull/unpleasant. The kind of relationship I'm talking about is one in which the husband wearing the trousers takes care to put his wife and their relationship first. Putting her and the relationship first is the key to creating a marriage in which the man wears the trousers in a good, healthy and sustainable way.
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