I have always been both enamored with, and amused by, the female gender of our species. There is a sense of mystery about them. They have learned to deliver such mixed messages—signals that only another female can decode—that they leave the male gender confused, in doubt, unsure and oft-frustrated, but wonderfully puzzled.
Yes, females are wonderful creatures. Soft, yet tough. Conquerable, yet resilient. Feisty, yet gentle.
But, men, never forget: there is a part of a woman, a component of what makes them female, that is decidedly fragile. It is a part of them that is delicate. It is with this component that you must handle with care.
For men, the innermost part that is the core of his being is his ego. Tamper with his ego and you are fooling with the mental and emotional tooling of the man. For the woman, however, it is her heart.
The heart of a woman is very strong—yet very fragile (in this sense, something akin to the ego of a man). The heart of a woman who is loyal, faithful, true and solid is so, so fragile: it is her very being. It is what she opens to the man so that he can take possession of her. She places it in his hands with the utmost trust. It is up to the man to place value upon this trust. He must cherish it and guard it with utmost intensity, as fiercely as he would an attack by a rapist upon his woman.
Fidelity in the relationship is all about protecting the heart of the woman, because it is from this trust-of-possession, and the respect of that trust that her man provides the value and self-worth that she derives from the relationship.
When a man takes this trusted possession and simply discards it through unfaithfulness, he communicates to her that her trust has no value to him. In his actions, he (sometimes unknowingly, yet) viciously attacks the being of the woman. She then questions her worth and the value of her trust.
Yet, it is we men whose being and worth should be questioned. What is the value of a man who would do such a thing? An honorable man would terminate a relationship in an honorable fashion. To do so would be to protect her heart and to guard her value and her trust.
No, it is the unworthy man that would risk her core, her being, in pursuing other challenges. It is the dishonorable man that would take this possession that she has entrusted to him, her heart, her soul, and flush it down the toilet as if it were so much refuse.
So gentlemen, particularly you younger fellows: understand the wonderful nature of your woman. Cherish it. In your relationship with her, deal with her from a position of honor. Honor the trust that she has handed over to you and surrendered to your care.
Handle with care.