Front page articles
"No" means "take me"
A beginners' guide to spanking
A breakdown on the road to intimacy
A brief introduction to Taken In Hand - from a Biblical perspective
A childhood memory
A consensual, non-controlling journey
A deep and satisfying marriage
A deeper connection
A difficult wife
A dominant man brainwashed into submission
A few thoughts on crying
A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leads
A good leader accepts that he is only human
A good marriage is a threesome
A good use of force
A happy end to marital deadlock
A high-dominance woman taken in hand
A kiss on the hand
A lifetime of denial ends
A love letter
A man in charge needs to be firm and steady
A man leads with love and kindness
A man released from his pseudo-beta torment
A man who is in control - of himself
A man with a backbone can be very soothing
A marriage of understanding, passion and pregnancy
A mysterious compulsion to obey
A need for control
A new journey
A question of commitment - will he be there when she needs him?
A reality check for critics
A relationship of equals
A risky strategy but it worked for us
A small but touching act of kindness
A smile man
A strong willed woman wanting a man to lose against
A sword-wielding female warrior taken in hand!
A Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the couple
A woman must know that her man cares
A year of new management
About Schmidt: choose engagement, not withdrawal
About the site owner
Abusive men: Hedda Nussbaum's list of red flags
Accommodating needs can't be done by the book
Actions speak louder than words
Acts of love
Advice for husbands beginning to take charge in their marriage
Agreements are a two-way street
Alpha male dominance
Alpha male in life clueless in love
Alpha males and the women who love them
Alternative therapy
American Beauty meets The Surrendered Wife
Amid chaos, a quiet dignity
An 1897 woman's “ideal of manhood”
An alpha female bares her throat only to her mate
An etiquette in the relationship
An expression of his authority
An iron hand in a velvet glove
An overview of Taken In Hand
An unexpected benefit of our Taken In Hand relationship
And Adam knew his wife
Are Men Necessary?, by Maureen Dowd: a book review
Are there hidden power dynamics in your relationship?
Are you getting through to her?
Are you paying attention? Are you really connecting?
Are you submissive to all men or to only one man?
Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?
Are you under misapprehensions about Taken In Hand?
Are you worth your weight in gold?
Are your labels preventing you from seeing what you have?
As the head of our household I put my wife first
Asserting dominance physically forcefully
Attention to detail
Attracting girls as a nice guy with a capacity for violence
Authority in a Taken In Hand relationship
Availability and rape
Back in the swing of things
Barbie is the doll, Ken is just an accessory.
BDSM . . . kink with some psychological payoff
BDSM practices in our Taken In Hand relationship
BDSM rituals and rule-bound relationships
Be careful when she relaxes her defenses
Be patient!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Beauty is skin deep; sexy is forever
Being able to be open and honest about my feelings
Being open to possibilities
Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silent
Being taken in hand is hot!
Being taken in hand was really rather super
Being with a stronger man allows a strong woman to relax
Being yourself
Believe it or not, she really wants you to assert yourself!
Bewitching Samantha
Blanket consent
Blossoming in his arms
Blush and Gary, by Gary
Bonded by rape
Brought to submission
Call for posts
Can a taken in hand woman be sexually subordinate and sexually aggressive?
Can physical chastisement cure bad habits?
Can two dominant individuals have a good relationship?
Can you be in charge without turning into her mother?
Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?
Can you protect her, cherish her and handle her?
Can you tell a submissive woman?
Cat whisperer
Change of heart
Changing for him - pleasing for me
Changing for myself
Checking his suitability
Chemistry is indispensable
Cherishing the family: little things have big effects
Choice Theory saved my marriage
Circumventing consent in a Taken In Hand relationship
Closing the gap
Coming unravelled (or not)
Communication
Communication doesn't have to be explicit, direct or verbal
Communication, consent and connection
Consensual rape as a gift of control
Consent makes all the difference in the world
Consent, control, connection
Control yourself and keep your legs closed!
Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In Hand
Could micromanagement work for you, too?
Could this kind of relationship be for you?
Could you be a slave, owned, property?
Craving protection, learning to trust
Creating an unbreakable bond of love takes time
Crossing a hurdle
DD relationships - the view of a mental health professional
Dealing with a man who doesn't do as he's told
Decades of discipline, decades of happy marriage
Different strokes for different folks
Discovering who we are
Do the right thing - be the captain of your ship
Do with me what you will
Do you 'meet as equals' or 'establish roles from the outset'?
Do you have a commanding presence?
Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?
Do you have these vital qualities women want in a man?
Do you have unrealistic expectations?
Do you keep a journal?
Do you need more attention in your relationship?
Do you show your appreciation when she obeys?
Do you tell your beloved that he or she is exceptional?
Do you think he doesn't have it in him?
Does being taken in hand mean not saying what you think?
Does it have to hurt to be Taken In Hand?
Does she want a Taken in Hand relationship?
Domestic discipline (DD)
Dominance and forcefulness, and violence
Dominance, integrity and needing to feel superior
Dominant men: D/s vs. Taken In Hand
Dominant to the last
Don't be an "if only" person
Don't forget your whip
Don't frighten the horses
Don't go into your cave, get out your preferred implement!
Don't tell anyone I'm here!
Don't tell me to leave my baggage at the door
Don't wait too long to tell her
Each relationship is a unique work in progress
Each to his own
Effect positive change by acting as if...
Egalitarian dating vs accepting gifts graciously
Embracing each other's darkest secrets
Embracing my inner adult
Empowering dominance
Enjoying consensual sexual aggression
Enjoying our relationship
Entitled to all of her husband
Equality isn't all it's cracked up to be
Equality through Taken in Hand?
Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...
Ever-deepening total love
Exercise authority
Exit To Eden: the movie
Explicit consent - finally!
Familiarity breeds contempt
FAQ (answers to frequently-asked questions)
Fascinating Womanhood and me
Fascinating Womanhood and the ideal woman
Fear
Fear of domination
Feeling the dragon's fire
Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in hand
Feminine submission and traditional language
Fierce women
Films with Taken In Hand overtones or references
Find your voice and speak
Finding a good man
Finding my way home
First there were the boys... then there was Bobby
First year trials
Flying by the seat of your pants
Force majeure
Force of will
Foreplay
Forget 'ideal' - look for the real
Forget femininity!
Freedom in letting go
From abject loser to young man
From BDSM to Taken In Hand
From clues to a wonderful reality
From exhausted single mother to happy Taken In Hand wife
From vague awareness to a beautiful relationship
Full circle
Getting it right takes time
Getting To "I Do", by Patricia Allen: a book review
Getting your rocks off
Girl alpha seeks all man alpha
Give me intensity or give me death!
Give new love a chance
Give the right impression?
Given a choice between two men ...
Giving each other what we need
Giving my best to my man who put his foot down
Giving up control is not easy
Good communication
Greater humility, less defensiveness
Greetings from a Spanish Taken In Hand couple
Growing old colourfully
Growing up
Handle with care... and honor and fidelity
Hands-on approach
Happily married to a dominant man
Happy living in fear of a man?!
Has feminism gone too far?
Have you captured her mind?
Have you found a proper balance?
Having consent to take her whenever you want assumes that you will act wisely
He isn't interested in or capable of taking you in hand?
He owns it all...
He was horrified but now he is very happy
He who dares, wins
He's in charge. . . but I do it my way
He: An Irreverent Look at the American Male, by Florence King: an excerpt
Help! The one I love nowadays rarely wants sex!
His word is final
Holding coats and opening doors
Holding the hand that spanks me
Hoping for a happy marriage?
How are things different from before Taken In Hand?
How badly I want this; how difficult it is to ask for it
How can a strong woman signal her submissiveness?
How can I be sure he's monogamous?
How can I be sure that she wants to be taken in hand?
How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship?
How can you submit when you feel <i>frustrated</i>?
How cool is that?
How do I broach the subject of Taken In Hand?
How do I find a take-charge man who will want a Taken In Hand relationship?
How do I know whether Taken In Hand is right for me?
How do we get started?
How do you maintain control in little ways?
How do you make housework more fun?
How do you relate to one another publicly?
How does she respond to sustained eye contact?
How I became submissive
How I discovered what I need
How I feel before, during and after being spanked
How I met my husband, and how that impacted my life
How I overcame my obsessive-compulsive disorder
How I turned the fantasy into reality
How is this different from other male-led relationships?
How it felt to be taken in hand for the very first time
How long does it take to adjust to Taken In Hand?
How my dress has changed
How my husband makes me melt
How my husband set me free
How my husband took me (in hand)
How my husband took my clothing choices in hand
How my mousy man became a lion
How often do you have sex?
How our relationship has changed
How should a woman dress?
How Sleeping Beauty found her prince
How Taken In Hand exorcised my inner demon
How Taken in Hand has transformed my wife
How Taken In Hand makes the mundane erotic
How to avoid making your life with your wife a living hell
How to break it to a new man
How to find out if a man wants a Taken in Hand relationship
How to get stuff done around the house without nagging
How to make your marriage good when life is bad
How to not to please a Taken In Hand customer!
How to read this site
How to tell him you want a Taken In Hand relationship
How to understand and appreciate a woman
How we got past the year from hell
How we have stayed happily married for over 30 years
How we stopped fighting and became happier together
How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilities
Human alpha, beta, and omega males: the reality
Husbands getting started at taking charge
I am a strong woman but I want to be taken in hand. Is this normal?
I am an animal!
I blame the knee-jerkers
I don't want to be a servant or slave
I don't want to be submissive!
I fear I have awoken a sleeping dragon
I love obeying my husband
I never learn
I want it all, and I want it now!
I want...
I want... to be possessed
I was drawn to his old-fashioned ways
I won't settle for anything less
I'm not supposed to tell you this...
I'm so lucky to have found the right man
If I asked for the moon...
If you want to use an article from this site...
If you want your wife to give you respect, give her love
Imagining my marriage as one long road-trip
Impregnation
In defence of books like Fascinating Womanhood
In defence of brats everywhere!
In my room
In praise of Fascinating Womanhood
Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?
Is a Taken In Hand woman a downtrodden doormat yes-woman?
Is chastity overrated?
Is discipline a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship?
Is he driving you mad?
Is he head of the household?
Is he one of the good guys... or not?
Is he who (or where) he says he is?
Is it a mistake to spank when angry?
Is it ever OK to FORCE your wife to do something?
Is it real?
Is it true that a man shouldn't need to get physical?
Is she afraid of losing control? Topping from the bottom?
Is spanking always sexual?
Is spanking necessary in a taken in hand relationship?
Is Taken In Hand a form of BDSM?
Is Taken In Hand a moral matter?
Is Taken In Hand a political matter?
Is Taken In Hand about discipline?
Is Taken In Hand about dominance and submission?
Is Taken In Hand bad for women who were abused in childhood?
Is Taken In Hand control real?
Is taking his wife in hand self-sacrificing for the man?
Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?
Is the idea of fairness causing trouble in your relationship?
Is the man's authority real if consent can be revoked?
Is there consent?
Is this a victory?
Is this really consensual?
Is your new man dominant, domineering, or a dithering wimp?
Is your relationship abusive?
It is working as advertised!
It takes two to tango
It's all my parents' fault!
It's like this, beloved: I need to be spanked
It's not about blame, so forget ‘fairness’!
It's not because he's infallible
It's not really natural for either of us
Jeopardized daily
Journaling: another way to talk
Journey into true submission
Keep your sense of humour!
Keeping the lines of communication open
Knights earn the name
Laura Schlessinger vs Helen Andelin on how to treat your husband
Laying the groundwork for other possibilities
Leadership, strength, emotional intimacy
Learning from the British army ethos
Learning the ropes
Learning to be more assertive can take time
Lessons from a Taken In Hand girl
Lessons from my marriage for wives wanting their husband to take them in hand
Letter to a potential partner
Letting myself go
Liberated through submission
Life with Woman and How to Survive it, by Joseph H. Peck: a review
Linguistically submissive
Listening isn't weak
Living the fantasy 24/7
Look for love
Looking into the mirror of life
Love and fear
Love Is A Decision, by Gary Smalley: a book review
Loving the missionary position may be your first clue
Loving, supportive and kind control
Magnificent man or merely male?
Make each other feel the luckiest person alive!
Making it explicit versus keeping it implicit
Man of Steel and Velvet by Aubrey Andelin: a book review
Men demanding sex
Men serve and lead, women receive and obey
Men taking responsibility
Missing my husband’s control
Mistakes made in forming relationships
Monogamy
Movie review: Stardust
Moving into a Taken In Hand relationship
Mr Darcy, Mr Knightley and the Taken In Hand ideal
Ms. Damen [should be] taken in hand (I jest!)
My deep dark secret
My experience of taking my wife in hand
My fascinating journey
My first Taken in Hand experience
My friend, my lover, my rock
My full and complete surrender
My husband and I face the world as a team
My husband being in charge helps in stressful times
My husband is my master but I am no slave
My husband's calm control makes me feel submissive
My intellectual equal wanted me to take control
My life, my choice
My marriage is a safe haven
My perfect guy, and the marriage he has given me
My Review of Laura Doyle's "The Surrendered Wife"
My treasure
My wife cherishes me
Narcissistic dominance vs Taken In Hand dominance
Natural flow
Needing my wife
Never do without sex again
No helpless hysterical heroines here!
No more waiting!
Nostalgic? Not a bit!
Not a lower-case girl
Not all men will get it unless you explain
Noticing and noting the positive
Now I want my husband all the time
Obedience
Obedience - a curious and perverse pleasure
Obedience and autonomy
Offering an olive branch
On being a man
On being the servant-leader in my relationship
Our journey through BDSM to Taken in Hand
Our new beginning
Our type of Taken In Hand marriage
Out of control, insane, driven by our emotions? No way!
Ownership as bonding
Passing it on
Passionate conquest
Patience, integrity…and being a little sweet always helps
Pleasing your man makes you feel more lovey and lusty
Pornography prevents and corrodes relationships
Power connectivity
Practical hints for men - handling a strong woman
Practical hints for men - times of stress
Practical hints for men - you are allowed to enjoy it!
Protective men
PUT women in their place
Quiet authority
Quietly taken in hand
Reaching out by offering yourself
Ready and willing
Real life leadership or rules and rigidity?
Reality is in the eye of the beholder
Reassurance for those new to all this
Recognition
Relationship and health versus productivity
ReMorseful
Resistance is futile
Resolving an internal conflict
Respect and responsibility
Responding to his loving control
Romance novels, good girls and mothers
Romantic rituals for the taken in hand
Safe
Safewords
Saved by the spank
Saying "no" as code for "I care"
Saying "no", leadership and chocolate
Saying so
Saying things for effect
Secretary: the film
Seduction of the independent female
Seeking a Taken In Hand relationship?
Self-realization – the catapult
Setting the record straight about punishment spanking
Shades of grey
Shall we dance?
Sharing the secret of our success
She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in hand
She wants him to prevail
She wants to be taken in hand against her will?!
Should love be willing to share?
Should the woman take the man's name on marriage?
Si vis pacem, para bellum
Sleeping positions, rituals and control
SM / D/s / BDSM in a Taken In Hand relationship?
So grateful - Taken In Hand has set us free
Softly taken in hand
Some advice for men seeking a woman
Some possible benefits of taking your wife in hand
Spanking as connection
Spanking in anger
Spanking is the last resort
Stereotypes
Stop living in denial and start becoming healthy
Strap-on Epiphany, by Virginia Vitzthum: a comment
Strength and ceding control
Subjugation or submission?
Sublimated desires
Submission and security
Submission must be earned
Superficially non-consensual but deeply consensual
Surrendered in love
Surrendering to the man I nearly destroyed
Switches do grow on trees
Take her in hand without lifting a finger
Taken In Hand - intimacy and romance
Taken In Hand - the bare essence
Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatrist
Taken In Hand as opposed to completely docile
Taken In Hand by an ardent feminist
Taken in hand by tenderness
Taken In Hand for the fatally flawed
Taken In Hand has changed our marriage
Taken In Hand in a nutshell
Taken In Hand is about male leadership not spanking
Taken In Hand is low-key and private, not a 'lifestyle'
Taken In Hand is not a lifestyle
Taken In Hand is not fair but it is fun - and just
Taken In Hand is nothing to do with patriarchy
Taken In Hand means different things to different people
Taken In Hand relationships are hot and close
Taken In Hand relieves tension and increases goodwill
Taken In Hand saved our marriage from doom
Taken In Hand through chronic illness
Taken In Hand works best when it is organic
Taken out of my anguish
Taking her
Taking her in hand is not a contact sport
Taking her in hand when she won't ask for it
Taking it step-by-step making piecemeal changes
Taking myself in hand: a personal journey with shared results
Taking Sex Differences Seriously, by Steven E. Rhoads
Telling him things that you can't tell him
The alpha male and masculine power
The anchor of love
The appeal of a very feminine woman
The butterfly effect
The carrot or the stick?
The changes show! What should I tell people?!
The coming battle
The committed marriage
The crooked path to where we are
The dance of consent
The difference between dominant and controlling
The difference between dominant and domineering
The dual failures of men
The dynamics of our Taken In Hand relationship
The erotic power of the unshackled man
The Eskimo analogy
The exquisite pleasure of childlikeness in a woman
The F-word
The face, the mask, and the dream
The Feminine Mystique, by Betty Friedan: a book review
The few times she has actually talked about it
The final step
The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: a review
The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: book review
The freedom to be an alpha male: the joy!
The Future of Men, by Marian Salzman, Ira Matathia and Ann O'Reilly: a book review
The hazards of self-sacrifice and impossible standards
The healing power of taking her in hand
The heart of an alpha wolf
The importance of conquest
The impossibility of installing a spine in a pansy
The joy of the master-queen dynamic
The King of the Dark Chamber, by Rabindranath Tagore: a book review
The long journey to Taken in Hand
The making of a dominant man
The man needs to be the pursuer
The man ordering for the woman in restaurants
The man who doesn't give a stuff about labels
The missionary position
The nature and effects of consensual non-consent
The Night Porter: movie review
The night that changed our marriage for ever
The NOW Habit
The paradox of the master and the queen
The paradox of the strong and submissive woman
The passion of the tango
The path
The power of a woman who submits to her man
The power of the feminine "please"
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: a book review
The resistant woman
The sexuality of ‘non-sexual’ dominance
The soothing effect of vowing to obey
The subjection of women
The submissive alpha female
The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle: a critique
The sweetest “Benevolent Dictatorship” ever
The Taming of the Shrew
The Total Woman, by Marabel Morgan: a book review
The unexpected benefits of surrendering control
The Virgin and the Gipsy, by D. H. Lawrence
The ways we do things
The word “anah” in brief
The worm turns (a little late, but better late than never!)
There is no knight in shining armour
Things can change
This man
This man's authority just IS
This place in my life feels right
This site no more? New host
Three different experiences of rape
Three female film characters I admire
Throw out the rules!
Thy Rod and Staff, by Edward Anthony: a book review
Timeshare taming
To be taken
To let go
To promise or not to promise?
Tom Jones, by Henry Fielding: an excerpt
Too feminine?
Too much of a good thing?
Total obedience?
Tradition, feminism, Victoria and Albert
Trials and errors – appeasement for anger
Trust is what makes my relationship so special
Truth and life
Two different women...
Two years and counting
Under new management
Understanding
Using the word “love” in writing about relationships
Violence in the garden
Virtues of the lowly switch
Wanting a masterful man
Wanting the impossible dream - a man in charge
Watch what she does, not what she says
We should consider ourselves so lucky
We were virgins when we married
We're not all submissive!
Wedded bliss
Wedding vows – I promised to “obey”
What a man gets from Taken in Hand
What a man!
What being taken in hand means to me
What causes contrition and crying?
What control means to me
What do you mean, you want to be taken in hand?!
What does the man get out of it? Many things!
What easy-to-say word gives every lover pleasure?
What happens when he makes a mistake?
What I get out of it
What if he is horrified by the idea?
What if it doesn't come naturally?
What if she is not interested in being taken in hand?
What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?
What is a Taken In Hand relationship?
What is the alpha male's secret?
What is the secret recipe?
What it is that we do
What kind of site is this? D/s? TPE? CP? DD? ABCD?
What qualities does a man need to be a good leader?
What Taken In Hand has done for our marriage
What Taken In Hand is, and what it is not
What Taken In Hand requires of you as a husband
What the woman gets out of it
What women don't want
What women need to know about men
What women want
What works for us
What would you do if your spouse said he or she no longer wants this kind of relationship?
What would you do if your wife damaged the car?
What you need to know about Taken In Hand
What's in a name?
What's in it for the man? Freedom!
When a man takes charge, his wife no longer rejects him sexually
When I'm in overdrive...
When is implicit consent enough?
When love transcends a weight issue
When rape is a gift
When the heart finally comes home
When visual pornography makes a wife feel devalued
When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...
When your love doesn't want to get married
Where are all the strong men?
Where these men come from...
Which comes first? Dominance or submission?
White hot intensity and boundless joy
White-hot absolution
Who cares what others think?
Who is the sexiest woman in the world?
Who needs forbidden fruit when you have this?!
Who says you have to be submissive?
Who Stole Feminism? by Christina Hoff Sommers: a book review
Who wants a slave?
Who's afraid of the big, growly lion?
Whose job is it?
Why a man might be reluctant and what to do about it
Why are Taken In Hand relationships so intimate and connected?
Why being married beats playing the pickup game
Why being taken in hand helps
Why did it take us 20 years?
Why do some prefer a Taken In Hand relationship to a conventional relationship?
Why do some rules work but not others?
Why do Taken In Hand folk reject the D/s label?
Why does being taken in hand work?
Why does it work?
Why does physically taking your wife in hand work?
Why is BDSM so popular?
Why is commitment important?
Why is real punishment spanking erotic?
Why is the Taken In Hand dynamic so powerful?
Why is this desire so powerful?
Why men start and why they stop
Why she wouldn't talk about it - and why she is talking about it now
Why Taken In Hand isn't actually unfair
Why the "Wow!"?
Why we rejected rules and punishment in our Taken In Hand relationship
Why won't he spank me when he's angry?
Why would a women want to be spanked?
Why would anyone want to be controlled by a man?
Why you should not withhold spanking!
Why you shouldn't mention the ‘M’ word
Woman whisperer
Women need to know when NOT to do as they're told!
Women want men who are more dominant
Women who take responsibility for their own actions
Work - don't be afraid of that four letter word!
Working wives