When I discovered Taken In Hand last January, and started down the path of being a strong, honorable husband, the results were spectacular and for several months things were better than they've ever been in almost twenty years of marriage.
Then I got off track and things went immediately downhill. After a brief interlude, I tried to get the train back on the tracks, with frustrating results. It was not working.
I've been frustrated for some time, trying to figure out what was different between then and now, and I finally realized that while I thought I was back on track, I really wasn't!
Before, I was taking charge quite nicely and things were getting better!
But after getting back on track, I wasn't stepping my game up to the levels before we derailed, and it showed plainly: a rocky relationship with a husband not commanding respect. My fault completely.
So now, I realize what I must do, but I wouldn't mind some advice and suggestions on how to do it.
This is a case that calls for actions, not words. This is not a subject that can be broached at home, but I do think that with the proper guided push, our relationship will get back on track.
I realize there are two parts to the process: Courage and Action. I can screw my courage to the sticking point and find the strength to do it, and I can probably grope my way up the learning curve, but I'm always open to learning from others' experiences.
So, what techniques have you used to build your Taken In Hand dynamic?
Robin F. (with a penis)