Very proud of my husband
I am very very proud of my husband.
We began to dabble with Taken in Hand a year or so ago, but really adopted the idea in earnest only a few weeks ago. He has taken charge more, and I have welcomed that. For example, I now ask his permission and advice about most things, and try as hard as I can to be the obliging wife.
We have just had our first interaction that feels to me Taken In Hand, and it has helped in so so many ways. I often let things which are annoying me go round and round in my head, making me very anxious and often angry and depressed. This time, something had been vexing me for some time, but I had neglected to discuss it with my husband. I was washing up in the kitchen when I blurted out the problem, "Our daughter is not going to stay at your mother's house next week." (My mother-in-law had said something that annoyed me that I hadn't been able to forget for weeks). It all sounds very trivial now!
This led to a small argument (my husband says "discussion"), and I got cross, and slammed a cupboard door.
Instead of ignoring the situation, allowing me to get crosser and angrier and probably say hurtful and unfair things, my husband strode into the kitchen, stopped me from washing up and gave me a stern talking to. He made me look him in the eyes, and unfold my arms. I was in a strop and not really up for listening, so he exclaimed, "Do I need to take you upstairs?"
I was so taken aback by his strong manly approach that I snapped out of my mood instantly.
We then had a calm chat and he allowed me to explain what was wrong in a mature manner.
I was so proud of the way that he dealt with it. It was the first real test that proved the values and benefits of our new way of relating, and long may it continue!
Charlie Umbrella.
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#1 beautiful
That's beautiful to see how your husband handled the situation and put you in your place to get things settled and resolved.