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The enigma of our modern era

It is an enigma of our modern era, the generation of women’s independence, that the art of arousal, stimulation and psychological foreplay has all too often been lost… that a man be a man, and lead his woman.

I do believe that a man should be the man in a relationship. To be decisive, confident, and strong. To be a leader. Since the beginning of time, man is the protector, the provider. I’m a believer in equality, don’t get me wrong. Many things should be discussed, and mutually agreed upon, communicating and sharing thoughts and ideas is so important.

But I believe that the man should take the lead, make her feel safe and secure. In general, and particularly in the bedroom. I want to “take her” to places she has always longed for. For her to have that comfort level, to trust fully that she can release her inner feelings and passions to me. For her to know that I will take her to the edge of ecstasy, carefully dancing with her along that edge, to experience incredible heights. Before I finally take her over the edge, feeling totally safe and secure, that she can release herself completely to me, knowing that I will always be there to catch her safely in my strong arms.

Death to the wimpy men… no wait… I kind of like the uniqueness.

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A readers' forum post by ThatFeeling on Wed, 04/01/2012 - 21:17

#1 So true

I could write volumes about this subject. In my not so humble opinion the good that feminism has done has long (very long) been overshadowed by the bad. I personally do not understand modern, egalitarian relationships. They bore me.

"It is an enigma of our modern era, the generation of women’s independence, that the art of arousal, stimulation and psychological foreplay has all too often been lost"
True. Add to that the art of the chase or hunt. Gender-bender and androgyny do not make for sizzling relationships.

Jessica Rabbit

Submitted by Jessica R on Thu, 02/02/2012 - 19:11.

#2 Real life

The more I read, the more often do I see situations of taken in hand in real life as well as on TV. Just last night, I was watching one of my favorite shows, Private Practice and the main actress is this strong, very successful woman. In last night's episode however, she was not strong, and a guy that likes her, and she likes him, took over for her. Took her in hand. I love that because it is so true. Many women need this and I believe that if more people knew about this site for example, many more couples would choose this.

Submitted by juylma on Sat, 04/02/2012 - 02:12.

#3 I hope so

Juylma, I don't know the show Private Practice. In general I think modern television goes out of its way NOT to portray anything that even remotely has a Taken In Hand feel. Of course, it would make me happy if they did. That's why I'm such a big fan of old movies. No problems there.

I agree, many people would like a Taken In Hand relationship, but I believe very often political correctness just stands in the way.

Submitted by Jessica R on Sat, 04/02/2012 - 14:34.

#4 I like old movies too

but really enjoy it when there is an instance of a guy taking charge on modern shows. This has helped me show my husband how even on TV, and in these stories, women like it, need it even.
Political correctness would stand in the way of many women admitting liking the idea of this kind of relationship, but I think there are many women who fantasize about being in such a relationship. I think it is the women that feel safe enough with their man to actually come out and say, that this is something they desire. At least it was for me. And I have not once been upset about speaking up for myself.

Submitted by juylma on Sat, 04/02/2012 - 18:17.

#5 Speaking of old movies and

Speaking of old movies and modern television shows ... has anyone else seen the Twilight movie franchise, and thought "That's so Taken in Hand!" Swoon.

I wasn't a big fan when those movies first came out, and just happened to catch the first release when it was showing on television one night. I was really bored that evening. If you haven't seen it, you need to watch it. Yes, it's a little cheesy and over-done, but being that you're all familiar with Taken In Hand, you'll instantly see why young women adore the storyline as much as they do (although I doubt they understand quite why). It certainly appealed to me in an instant.

The main character is all about protecting his love interest. That's really the only premise of the whole movie, actually. And I think that those same qualities exhibited by the movie's main male characters (there are two) are what draw so many women in to the idea of Taken in Hand or a more traditional sense of marriage/relationships, where men are men and are strong, fearless, take control, and act as the protective figures in our lives.

I'm now a closet fan of the series, and am anxiously awaiting the third (?) release on DVD which comes out later this week! Okay, dork-out over.

Submitted by SecretSurrenderedWife on Mon, 06/02/2012 - 18:11.

#6 Twilight

I sure agree with you on why all these girls just love Twilight. I really do believe it is because of the way both male characters treat and protect their love interest. It is so taken in hand. I love Twilight. I first read the series, which is even better.

The third one should already be out on DVD, the fourth one on the other hand is coming out now sometime.

Submitted by juylma on Tue, 07/02/2012 - 18:02.

#7 Twilight

I haven't seen Twilight, because it seems to be a show/film geared towards teenage audiences. And that just put me off. Just looking at the male leads, who seem to be such typical hollywood pretty boys to me, does not make me want to watch it. That's why I skipped it.

If anyone has any other recommendations though, I'll gladly check them out though.

Jessica Rabbit

Submitted by Jessica R on Wed, 08/02/2012 - 19:19.

#8 Recommendations

Well, do you like reading? If so, check out Carolyn Faulkner. She has some pretty good ones...

Submitted by juylma on Thu, 09/02/2012 - 02:42.

#9 Oh, hello...

Carolyn Faulkner sounds quite good. :)

Sufficiently naughty.

Submitted by Jessica R on Thu, 09/02/2012 - 18:32.

#10 Very

Some of her books are a bit too much for me, the rest really good!

Submitted by juylma on Thu, 09/02/2012 - 23:54.

#11 Gap Creek

Hi JR,

Yeah, "Twilight" doesn't really do it for me, either. I tried, I really did! I guess I'm not a romantic :(

I just read a book recently called "Gap Creek - the Story of a Marriage" by Robert Morgan. It's in North Carolina, U.S., at the start of the 20th century and there is a strong Taken In Hand theme throughout.

Another really excellent book is called "13 Moons" by Charles Frazier, author of "Cold Mountain". Taken In Hand may be a little harder to spot in this book, as the love affair is secondary to the rest of the story which covers a tumultuous period in the social and political climate in U.S. history, but you'll recognize it. I loved this book!

I realize that historical fiction isn't to everyone's liking, but "Gap Creek" is a quick read, and as it's primarily about a relationship, most folks might be able to muddle through it.

Mare

Submitted by Mariela on Mon, 20/02/2012 - 15:53.

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