Through my giving my husband control in our relationship, Mr Lucky feels ownership of our relationship. He feels like it is up to him to make it flourish. Instead of fighting against me, he wants to take care of and nurture me. To help me be the best that I can be. The health of our relationship is a direct reflection of the quality of his leadership. He is constantly amazing me with his insights and wisdom and his consistent drive to be his best self. To prove to me that he is worthy of my trust and admiration and that my decision to let him lead was the right decision. Heady stuff.
Even though it might sound counter-intuitive, relinquishing control can actually make it more likely that your needs will be met, that your opinions will be considered and that your relationship will flourish.
If a man is not constantly fighting you for leadership, but feels that he IS the leader in your relationship that frees him up to be generous.
In my experience it is way more fun and satisfying for all involved!