It seems folks, male or female, don’t always learn they want a Taken In Hand relationship overnight. How did you come to know you wanted this? How old were you when you figured out that this is what you want? Did you discover it gradually or suddenly? What happened? What changed? How did you come to know you wanted this rather than something else, like BDSM, DD, D/s, polyamory/non-monogamy, or a standard traditional/old-fashioned marriage, for example?