This is a question to all those who practise erotic spanking alongside disciplinary spanking. My husband and I have been wondering whether in our still emerging Taken in Hand relationship these two forms of spanking should be more clearly separated. With us, the disciplinary spanking is definitely more painful, but still it usually ends up becoming erotic—which isn't a bad thing as such, if it happens occasionally, but we both feel that in general the difference between both should be marked more clearly.
Do others feel this need as well and, if so, how do you achieve the difference? By means of some strict rules or rituals? My husband initially suggested tying my hands for the disciplinary spankings (somehow they keep getting into his way...), but the very idea makes me panic! Any suggestions?