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Consensual 'rape' and PTSD

Came across a very 'interesting' article today at http://www.good.is/post/how-violent-sex-helped-ease-my-ptsd/

In a nutshell, a reporter who was experiencing post traumatic stress disorder as a result of some experiences in working with rape victims managed to heal from it through an episode of consensual 'rape'.

I'm not sure what to think of this. Is the female rape fantasy really a desire for release from stresses that are bottled up inside, a need for a simulated traumatic experience to open the pathway for release of the stress?

See also the full discussion on When rape is a gift.

I look forward to your comments.

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A readers' forum post by HerMan on Sun, 10/07/2011 - 03:18

#1 Rape fantasies and PTSD

I don't know about the particular experiences of that author but it is most definitely the case that some women who have experienced rape, manage to create some kind of healing for themselves through acted out rape fantasies.

Submitted by The Editor on Sun, 10/07/2011 - 20:46.

#2 I can't say for all suffers

I can't say for all suffers of PTSD, or for all victims of rape, but for myself personally it has definitely helped. I know as a third party it's probably extremely strange to consider: a victim of violence seeking out what for some is a very scarring situation. I suffered rape at the hands of another for about five years, almost on a daily basis. Yet, I always desired a male-led relationship even before my situation. So, I doubt that this desire derived from that event, as some suggest. Consensual non-consent is not at the sole will of another; that is rape. Consensual being the key word; the woman has complete control over what is occurring in that time and space. In an actual rape, the woman has absolutely no control over what is happening. So I guess, it's a way to go through a situation, that is only seemingly out of your control. For me, personally, it takes away the power from the actual thing. Having complete control over the consensual scenario, takes the fear and control out of the actual rape. Trust and communication are the major key players when it comes to incorporating consensual force into a relationship even once. In an actual situation of rape, even if you know the person committing the crime, there is no trust, there is no communication. The two situations are entirely different on their own, and elicit entirely different emotions. It's definitely a case-by-case basis; many woman who have suffered from sexual violence don't want anything to do with any sexual encounter, never the less the consensual non-consenting kind.

Submitted by Janine on Mon, 02/01/2012 - 06:39.

#3 Consensual 'rape' and PTSD

This approach works well for me. My PTSD has been managed through male dominance unleashed mercilessly upon me. My nightmares, hypervigilance and anxiety disappeared. No prescription or psychiatrist had as much impact as being Taken in Hand. Truly, through my stripes I was healed.

Submitted by GoodAndFaithfulWife on Fri, 24/02/2012 - 22:28.

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