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A strong alpha wants a fellow alpha not a submissive/beta type

Can anyone tell me why it's assumed--not on this site but on other sites and in RL--that a lass that likes a dominant, take-charge, alpha male must be submissive? This is the first site I've found on which it's acknowledged that "high dominance" alpha females can and do prefer uber-dominant alpha males, and that such males don't want a lily-livered submissive beta lass.

Reading this site makes me feel like finally I'm home because you get it. Those that post here don't make me feel like a weirdo for being an alpha female that's not submissive in any way, shape or form, including in my relationship, but that needs a man even stronger than I am, a bloke that wouldn't want a submissive beta female but instead a lass like me, and I don't have to pretend to be something I'm not, I can be myself and the bloke for me will like me just how I am.

Or is this all just a dream?

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A readers' forum post by Britlass on Sat, 12/11/2011 - 20:27

#1 "Or is this all just a dream?"

Yes, it IS all just a dream, UNTIL it becomes REALITY.

ALL relationships began as dreams or nightmares. The BEST relationship springs from what is oddly referred to as a PipeDream.

A PipeDream is an all-consuming fantasy that has no hope of consummation without extreme effort on the part of the dreamer.

You have read this site and presumably you realize that your ideal partner at present exists only in a pipedream. Your educational adventures here have also revealed that YOUR pipedream CAN be substantiated in the cold world of reality with enough research and effort on your part.

May I point out, if I may be so bold, that your exploration of this site revealed that the successful attainment of a given PipeDream required much suffering effort on the part of the Dreamer.

Your wish can come true. But I don't believe it will come to pass without a HUGE struggle on YOUR part.

I wish you the best of luck on your quest.

Mick McCleod

Submitted by NinthMcCleod on Sat, 12/11/2011 - 21:08.

#2 Alphas and betas

I personally like it when my husband makes me feel submissive, i find it very agreeable. I don't regard myself as lily-livered, and I don't think my husband sees me that way either.

And I have never personally found that human beings can be categorised quite that tidily, into alphas, betas, etc. People I know tend to be more of a mixture than that. I don't feel submissive all the time, it is a feeling that needs to be brought out by my husband's dominance, but if I didn't have an inclination to yield to dominance, I am not sure how the relationship would work actually. If we were both dominant all the time, what then?

Louise

Submitted by Louise C on Sun, 13/11/2011 - 22:14.

#3 The Thrill...

There is no thrill in having a woman submit to you when she is a weak person who just submits to everybody.

When a woman who is strong and confident in who she is and what she is worth kneels before her man and looks up into his eyes and calls him her master offering him her body, heart and soul, it fills him with a power that can't be named or described. He wants nothing more than to have her, to protect her, satisfy her and take her in hand in every way. He will cherish her to the end of time.

Submitted by HerMan on Mon, 14/11/2011 - 14:53.

#4 Not either

This topic makes me anxious because of course I want to be thrilling. I'm not submissive. Nobody in my family thinks that. But I'm not confident either--vain yes, but confident, no. I like resisting, and sometimes, but not always, feeling my husband overcome me. But I'm not at all managerial. I don't like telling other people what to do. I just can't stand other people telling me what to do.

Um

Submitted by Um on Tue, 15/11/2011 - 02:24.

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