FAQ (answers to frequently-asked questions)
- What is a Taken In Hand relationship?
- Why do some prefer a Taken In Hand relationship to a conventional relationship?
- Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?
- How do I know whether Taken In Hand is right for me?
- How do I find a man who will take me in hand?
- How do I find a woman who will want to be taken in hand?
- How can I determine whether my new man might be open to Taken In Hand?
- How can I determine whether my new girlfriend might be open to Taken In Hand?
- How do I broach the subject of Taken In Hand?
- How can I persuade him to take control in our relationship?
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I want us to have a Taken In Hand relationship. How can I persuade my wife?
- We've been married a long time. When I started taking my wife in hand, it was as if someone had ignited a sexual nuclear bomb under us. We are a million times more aroused by each other than we have ever been. Why is the Taken In Hand dynamic so powerful?
- How is it that those drawn to the idea of a male-controlled relationship tend to find that their relationship becomes more connected and intimate when they begin to move into a Taken In Hand relationship?
- Is Taken In Hand a matter of morality? Do you think people should be taken in hand?
- Is Taken In Hand a political matter?
- Why do some women want to be taken in hand?
- Why do some men want to take their woman in hand?
- Is this like The Stepford Wives?
- Is Taken In Hand infantalising for the woman?
- Is Taken In Hand about pretending to be something you're not?
- Does being taken in hand imply self-sacrifice?
- How does Taken In Hand help the man to feel positive about his relationship?
- Isn't being in charge or in control just a mild form of being controlling/abusive?
- Does the man have to be perfect to take the woman in hand?
- What if the man makes a mistake?
- For the first time in my life, I don't feel restless, trapped, or tempted to have an affair. Why is my wife so much more attractive to me now we have a Taken In Hand relationship?
- Does the fact that the Taken In Hand woman is subordinate mean that she is a lesser person?
- Is Taken In Hand a panacea?
- Is Taken In Hand a sexual kink?
- Is Taken In Hand about dominance and submission?
- Why do many Taken In Hand folk reject the D/s label?
- Is Taken In Hand about spanking?
- Is Taken In Hand about discipline?
- Is Taken In Hand about whips and chains and bedroom games?
- Is a Taken In Hand relationship consensual?
- Is Taken In Hand legal?
- Is Taken In Hand abusive?
- I am a strong, competent, intelligent, well-educated woman with a good career and a powerful personality but I want to be taken in hand. Is this normal?
- I don't consider myself submissive. Can I still be taken in hand?
- Do you have to be a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal to take a woman in hand?
- I am a good, decent fellow who believes strongly in consent and equal rights for women. Is Taken In Hand for me?
- How can I stop feeling guilty about wanting to be in charge in a relationship?
- I strongly believe in individual freedom. How can Taken In Hand be consistent with this idea?
- Is the man seen as better than the woman in Taken In Hand?
- Is Taken In Hand more natural than other kinds of relationship?
- How do we get started?
- What's wrong with focusing on discipline?
- Is Taken In Hand atavistic/reactionary/regressive/retrograde?
- Is Taken In Hand safe?
- Is Taken In Hand dangerous for women? What are the dangers?
- Is Taken In Hand dangerous for men? What are the dangers?
- Is a Taken In Hand woman a weak woman?
- Is a Taken In Hand woman a doormat yes-woman?
- Is Taken In Hand about turning women into servants for self-serving men?
- What potential problems could pursuing this path cause?
- What if he is either not interested in or incapable of taking me in hand?
- What if she is not interested in being taken in hand?
- Is spanking always sexual?
- Why is real punishment spanking erotic?
- Why won't he spank me when he's angry?
- Why would a woman want to be spanked?
- Suppose a couple have the kind of Taken In Hand relationship in which there is wholehearted consent for physical discipline/punishment. What does the man do if he decides to discipline his wife on a particular occasion but she refuses to cooperate?
- Does being Taken In Hand and sexual domination go hand-in-hand?
- How much work goes into a Taken In Hand relationship?
- What signs would indicate that Taken In Hand is not working?
- Why do some rules work but not others?
- What role does sex play in a Taken In Hand relationship?
- Can you give examples of the various types of Taken In Hand relationships on your site?
- Why do you consider such a wide variety of relationships to be Taken In Hand?
- What do all the different types of Taken In Hand relationship have in common?
- Is Taken In Hand mainly for married couples?
More questions, anyone?
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