Exit To Eden is not a Taken In Hand movie per se, but I got a Taken In Hand message from it that I much needed to hear.
It is about two police officers who are hired to find a smuggler/killer who is going to a BDSM resort.
In one scene, Rosie O'Donnell asks the dominatrix how she got into the business. She tells the story of her true submissive nature, but how she got involved with a Dom who taught her that if she is in control, she will never be hurt again (she had had hurtful experiences with men in the past). Hence, she becomes a Domme and evidently for the time being, sees this as a way to be safe—not to be hurt again—by being in control. O'Donnell asks her, “What about not being in control but still feeling safe?”, and the dominatrix concedes that would be a great thing, but when O'Donnell asks her if she has ever experienced that, she evades the question.
But then the dominatrix falls in love with a client who acts the submissive role while at the resort, yet leaves him after overhearing victims of domestic abuse at a police station. She decides that by giving up her control, even to a good man, she risks too much; she may end up like those women if she doesn't keep control.
But in the end, O'Donnell convinces her that a woman who has been hurt by a man or men must learn to trust the good guys—that giving up control can be a good thing, if it's the right man.
That was me (although I never became a professional dominatrix, lol). I always felt I had to be in charge in relationships, or that I risked pain and hurt again. I was sexually abused as a child by an uncle (something my father saved me from after he found out about it), and later by a boyfriend who date-raped me when I tried breaking it off with him. Because of this, I felt I needed to be in charge in all my relationships, or I risked that kind of mistreatment again. One thing I distinctly remember—and not feeling at all good about it—was that I felt powerless in those two horrible situations.
Taken In Hand taught me that, with the right man, giving up control can be safe after all. The movie Exit To Eden also teaches this, and I cried as I watched it because I finally realized just why Taken In Hand has been such a godsend for not only me, but also my husband. My husband is one of the good guys, and he didn't deserve disrespect because of what two other men did before him. My husband is very much like my father was—my protector, a good man who only wants what is best for me.