If you are single and you have a definite and clear idea about what sort of relationship you want in marriage, then I think it advisable to ascertain before marriage whether the other person is willing to have the kind of relationship you want or not. Lots of people have developed Taken In Hand relationships after marriage, but there are also frustrated people who have found themselves married to partners who are simply not that way inclined.
Marrying someone in the hope that they will develop an interest in Taken In Hand is an extremely dodgy thing to do—particularly if you want a lot of control. That's not something you would want to leave to chance. And if you crave spanking/punishment, marrying someone who has no interest in that could be terribly frustrating. Domestic Discipline sites on the Internet are full of people who go outside their marriages for spanking because they can't get their partners interested in it. Frustration POURS out of people who have found themselves married to partners who do not share their desires, the words “If only...” crop up again and again. “If only he would do this.”—“If only he understood.”—“If only she'd let me...”
Admittedly, I was an “if only” person myself when I discovered this site, and I was fortunate to find that I could have what I wanted after all. But then I didn't have any clear idea of what I really wanted before I was married. If you are singe and looking for a partner, I would strongly advise finding someone who shares your desires before you are married, rather than marrying someone and just hoping that they will turn out to be the right type for this relationship.
Don't be an “if only” person.