I just had an experience that made me realize what delicate creatures women—and probably men for that matter—are on the inside.
When a woman finds a leading man she can trust it allows her to relax let down her defenses and be her delicate and beautiful inner self. The man must be very careful to not betray her trust because anyone with their defenses down can be hurt very easily.
Similarly it seems that not challenging a man allows him to drop his defenses and to relax and be his inner self that can also be easily be betrayed or hurt.
It seems a mistake to not acknowledge how vulnerable and open the tender emotions make us. Guarding that and respecting that seems the most important thing that can happen in a relationship.
Being in a Taken In Hand relationship makes a person particularly open and vulnerable, and each person needs to respect that and be careful.
I missed this vital issue, led too strongly and made a major mistake and scared a woman very badly.
So this is my warning for all of the other guys out there. Be careful when the woman you are with relaxes her defenses. Take care of her and defend her: don't carelessly hurt her.