Authority is the right or power to enforce rules or give orders. As a man with an interest in having a Taken In Hand relationship, I like the idea of having the power to exercise authority over a woman who would enjoy that. I have no interest in being in an authority position over a woman for whom that would not be exciting and enjoyable: it would have to be consensual. I am not someone who thinks men have the moral right to be in authority over their women: this is only for those who find the idea of authority fun, exciting and erotic.
I like the idea of being with a woman who would accept my authority—a woman who would want me to have the right to make decisions and command obedience. I like the idea that if I were to tell my woman to do something, she would do it. If she were to disobey me, I would punish her. The woman for me would be someone who would find that exciting, a woman who is aroused by authority, and by my exercising that authority over her.
I'd like to have authority partly because of its power to short-circuit relationship-damaging rows, as ConfusedofHomeCounties and the boss have explained. But mainly (let's be honest!) because it's sexy.
Even if I were mistaken (or if the woman thought I was mistaken), I'd still expect her to accept my authority and obey me. I am not into having a servant, and would not use my authority to extract service from my woman, but even here, if I were to ask her to do something, I would expect her to do it, and would punish her if she did not. I would of course want my woman to feel free to speak her mind, raise objections, and I would hear her ideas, opinions and complaints. But in the end, I would be the authority and I would make the decisions and she would be subject to that authority and willingly so.
Having said all this, I am a very laid-back, easy-going, non-demanding person, and I believe in exercising my authority with a very light touch. I think this important for a Taken In Hand relationship.
Although I said I'd expect obedience, I'd be disappointed if my woman had no spirit and playful mischievousness sometimes. I wouldn't expect punishment to be very frequent, and I would expect it always to bring us together and to reaffirm our connection, never to make my woman miserable or distress her for any length of time. If authority were not something positive for both, it would not have the power to excite me. Consent is paramount: I don't want to take away women's rights.