I was a reckless guy in my youth with a high tolerance for risk across a broad spectrum. I also had a great deal of skill in administering violence and organising others to administer violence. I am also fat, have emotional/intimacy issues, and lack communication skills. Accordingly I possess three qualities that various individuals claim are attractive (others too but that's by the by :)) and three that most of you will agree are not.
Here follows my factual observations of reactions, their context and rationales to explain these.
As a kid at parties I would have trouble with girls due to my personal failings. But if violence occurred, this increased my attractiveness to girls. This was contextual and increased in proportion to the level of violence. One example is when a large armed gang assaulted a party I was attending and at which no girls were interested in me. I chased the entire gang away by calmly walking up to them, issuing a verbal line to put the leader off-balance, then sent him to hospital in about three seconds with a concealed weapon (a night stick). I turned on the next nearest gang member and the entire gang fled, with me in pursuit. When I returned practically all the girls were sexually interested in me. There were similar smaller-scale incidents.
Thus, a capability for violence and danger can be very attractive to girls. I know this is true. I can also tell you that this depends on the target of the violence. Beating the crap out of the undeserving appeals to a tiny minority of females but the majority find it disturbing and repellent. In my experience a capacity for violence diminishes in its attractiveness to the vast majority (but not all) females the older they get.
I can also tell you that risk-taking activities such as motorbikes, joyrides and other naughty “adrenaline” crimes I won't catalog did not increase my attractiveness to girls to a degree I could notice. But if an activity demonstrated great dexterity, skill, agility or strength then, so long as the girl was not put off by the context, these would increase my attractiveness. So, the simple risk-taking aspect might well be attractive, but not enough to offset my personal disadvantages, but demonstrating skill or strength in high-risk situations often would.
I was also very nice to girls, partly due to my lack of other skills (which I rationalise many girls who do not find it attractive believe to be the major motivation of all guys presenting the "nice" behavior) but mostly because my dad taught me I should be nice to girls. When I say nice, I was pleasant and attentive, and I listened—but also I know I must have come across as needy. To examine this properly you must detach it from other influences such as those previously discussed, or a talent for humor, etc. I have observed a very small number of other guys who are nice and attentive to girls (99% of the time—people aren't perfect) but would in no way come across as needy or weak, and they are generally the most successful guys I know with a broad spectrum of girls.
So, to close this nice guy rubbish once and for all, I can inform you guys (and a few girls!) who think this is a failing that it is absolutely not, and that the guy's failing is in another area which he has chosen to ignore and explain away as being about the nice behavior. It is not. Believe me.
There are a number of girls (and few guys), often with vicious backgrounds, who view any decency as weakness, However, they are a tiny minority, unless the area is tough, in which case the occurrence of such individuals rises. They are generally hard and callous people themselves, or ripped to pieces so badly there's little hope of reconstructing them, so you should have no problem identifying them.
The majority of girls react well to nice and mostly decent behavior and view it as a positive but it does not on its own win the girl in general since on its own it's simply not stimulating. There must be other qualities present too (i.e. looks, confidence, perhaps cheeky humor, etc.). Do guys pick a girl simply by how nice she is? Of course not. A guy may well pick a girl who follows him around and appears to need him; however, this is simply a difference between men and women in that many men find this kind of neediness attractive (at least at first) while most women (and even fewer girls) do not.
Have you seen the following articles?
The subjection of women
Women need to know when NOT to do as they're told!
Is chastity overrated?
Looking into the mirror of life
Men serve and lead, women receive and obey
Why would anyone want to be controlled by a man?
A good leader accepts that he is only human
Dominance and forcefulness, and violence
It's all my parents' fault!
Why is BDSM so popular?