As I have previously pointed out in various posts, my wife and I went through a period early in our marriage when she wondered when I would ever learn that I was not getting through to her. At the time, I was unable to see things from a woman's perspective.
Years later, I came to the conclusion that gentlemen do not stay married. Actually, the preceding assessment is an oversimplification since I still open car doors for my wife and seat her in restaurants. Nevertheless, it gets the point across.
Despite the facade of civilization, women choose men for much the same reason as their maternal ancestors. Consequently, underneath all the touchy-feely, women expect men to be men when they need them to be men.
It is this primal drive—even primordial urge that is most probably incorporated in the interaction of the genes—that still draws women to men with a bit of the beast inside.
Women expect men to exhibit manliness in a timely fashion. In time, they will loath his timidity.
The difficulty for the man is complicated because women frequently expect the man to figure things out for himself. This seems to be a universal test of manhood through which women put men.
Despite some early successes in our relationship, I failed to understand that Taken in Hand consists of a continuation rather than occasional discrete events. Fortunately, my wife did not leave me in ignorance until it did irreparable damage to our marriage.
Our marriage floundered until my wife challenged me to put her over my lap and seriously discipline her with an old-fashioned American schoolhouse-style paddle.
The outcome immediately improved our marriage. My wife got up with a newfound respect that radiated from the inside.
As she put herself back together, she was obviously a very much a different woman. Our marriage has not been the same since.
I have since learned that my wife is not unique. Women want men able to take them in hand. They will both love and respect men for so doing.