An overview of Taken In Hand
A Taken In Hand relationship is a wholehearted sexually exclusive marriage in which, to the delight of both spouses, the man actively controls the woman. The degree of control and the way the husband retains control vary from Taken In Hand couple to Taken In Hand couple, but in all cases both husband and wife actively want the husband to have the upper hand. No matter how strong, tough and forceful a Taken In Hand wife may be, and no matter how hard she might try to take control in their marriage, she would be aghast if her husband were to let her get the upper hand. Likewise, no matter how loving, kind and considerate the husband may be, he prefers to keep his wife firmly in hand.
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What kind of relationship is this?
- It is wholehearted, fully committed, focused, faithfully sexually-exclusive and monogamous
- The man has the balance of power and control
- The man's control is thoroughly consensual and welcome
- The control is for the benefit of both individuals and for the relationship, as opposed to being abusive or purely self-serving
- The woman is unlikely to identify with the word ‘submissive’
- It is dynamic and evolving, not a static or stereotypical relationship
- It is deeply connected and engaged and intimate
- The relationship empowers and nurtures the autonomy of both individuals, as opposed to diminishing the woman.
- It is freely chosen and wanted on an on-going basis, or it is not a Taken In Hand relationship.
What are the people like?
- Taken In Hand individuals are just that: individuals; they are not stereotypical
- The men – kind and caring, not self-serving narcissists
- The women – strong and competent, not weak or wimpy doormat types
- You and me – ordinary people – your neighbour, your sister, the chap you work with, your best friend
How does it feel?
- Taken In Hand feels liberating
- Taken In Hand feels natural and right
- A deep feeling of peacefulness
- Amazing communication
- Problems seem easier to solve
- Improved/intense sexual connection
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Have you seen the following articles?
Give me intensity or give me death!
Entitled to all of her husband
Woman whisperer
On being the servant-leader in my relationship
Taken In Hand means different things to different people
Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?
Help! The one I love nowadays rarely wants sex!
Stereotypes
Handle with care... and honor and fidelity
The sexuality of ‘non-sexual’ dominance
Comments
#1 A very good overview
Thanks for your overview, I found it a very good résumé of the different types of relationships we have heard about here.
I felt specially touched by:
The man has the balance of power and control
The man's control is consensual and welcome
The women – strong and competent, not weak or wimpy doormat types
I definitely agree with those three and would not add anything else.
But I would also say, as the site owner has said, that how much control he gets and she gives is what differenciates the different relationships we have heard about. What may work for you, could not do it for me and vice versa.