As I have read the different articles about Taken In Hand, I have pondered whether this is healthy, and whether would it work for a long time—and suddenly, I remembered something that happened in my parents' relationship some 35 years ago.
My mom is normally very sweet and not a nagging wife, but one day, when I was a kid, Mom was carrying on and on and on to the point where I could hardly stand it (I was 10). Dad sat in his chair with a stern look on his face. I kept looking at Dad as he sat up a little straighter, his face looking more stern and was odviously getting very displeased at my mother. She was beyond the point of control and didn't notice in her ranting the effect she was having on him.
Suddenly (and I mean very suddenly!), Dad grabbed her arm as she walked by him still ranting away, and made her stop walking and then he popped her on the bottom a few times. My mouth flew open and so did Mom's! She rubbed her bottom and said, "Why did you do that?!" Suddenly, the room was quiet, the ranting stopped and Dad with a devilish smile said, "That is enough, Carol; stop it." Mom looked at me and I could barely hold in my laughter, Dad then chuckled and the room was finely peaceful. Mom then realized how she had sounded and then, to my surprise, she hugged Dad's neck. The tone and the rest of the day took a 180° after that.
I had completely forgot that little memory until I got on this site. I doubt very seriously that my parents do that kind of thing on a regular basis, but I am sure Mom always remembered that authority from Dad and maybe that is why she has never done that again. ;-)
My parents have just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary and Dad wrote a poem and stated that his biggest success in life was marrying my mom.
Thanks for listening to my memory....and I believe that having a male-led relationship does last—as I have witnessed from my parents' role model.