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Hugs that bug

I'm back with a situation that doesn't appear to me to directly correspond to Taken In Hand, but I'm very curious to hear what the Taken In Hand perspective has to say.

A readers' forum post by Robin F. on Wed, 16/05/2012 - 19:20
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Fifty Shades of Grey, by E L James: a book review

You won't want to miss Louise's review of this much hyped book. Add your own reviews in the comments below.

Tue, 15/05/2012 - 21:08
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My wife wants me to take charge but how?

My wife and I have been married nearly 9 years and we always considered ourselves happily married and blessed to have found one another, until we started having children. We now have three under 5s, and my wife is no longer happy with me.

A readers' forum post by Gabai on Tue, 01/05/2012 - 17:40
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Military discipline or the softer approach of a southern gentleman?

Richard was raised a southern gentleman and became a marine. He wonders whether the southern gentleman might be too soft, and the marine too intimidating. What should he do?

Thu, 19/04/2012 - 12:21
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Do I have to be a control freak to take my wife in hand?

Robin F. asks what, if anything, is in it for him if he takes charge in his marriage, given that he is not a control freak, and given that the argument that men who take charge have more and better sex in their marriage has not overcome his feeling that being in charge sounds like a chore.

Tue, 17/04/2012 - 17:31
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Can I still take charge if I'm not a superhero?

Can a man take charge in his marriage if he is not a super-confident, impossibly firm, always calm, take-charge superhero without needs?

Sat, 17/03/2012 - 09:31
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Do women really want to defeat men?

Women often think they want to defeat men, yet oh how miserable they are when they succeed, as Suz says.

Tue, 13/03/2012 - 15:24
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Advice for women: how to find and marry Mr Right - step 1

Make the mistake of ignoring this step or assuming you have already taken it, and you might be setting yourself up for decades of misery.

Sat, 10/03/2012 - 16:42
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My testing is of myself not his control of me

Um points out that what might appear to be a wife's testing of her husband's ability and willingness to take and keep her firmly in hand, can in some cases be actually more about testing herself, her own identity as a woman.

Sun, 26/02/2012 - 18:49
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It's NOT too late to stop living in conflict with who you are

Mariela and her husband lived in conflict with who they are for many years, with disastrous results. But once she realised consciously that that is what they were doing, Mariela boldly proposed a change, her husband gladly accepted, and their marriage is now vibrantly happy.

Fri, 17/02/2012 - 10:55
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To be a man in a Taken In Hand relationship is to be the engine in a ship - if you’re not running then the boat isn’t going anywhere

In this love letter to his wife, Trife draws attention to the importance of actively engaging in a marriage if you want the relationship to be a good one.

Tue, 14/02/2012 - 23:31
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The heart of an alpha wolf

An incident that made KoiKitty swoon.

Sat, 28/01/2012 - 18:42
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Why does it work?

This site is full of testimonials to how well Taken In Hand works, but why? Here are some thoughts on the matter by Retiarius. Why do you yourself think Taken In Hand works?

Sat, 21/01/2012 - 04:30
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How my husband took me (in hand)

Don't miss this rather exciting account of the events of one evening in the life of sskk and her husband.

Tue, 06/12/2011 - 14:15
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I am an animal!

The dominant male in animal dominance hierarchies achieves his status by actively dominating, decisively overcoming all challenges to his position. Husbands, take note. Wives – at least those of a Taken In Hand persuasion ‐ really want you to be firm with them, as Mrs Lucky's brilliant article makes clear.

Tue, 11/10/2011 - 10:43
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From abject loser to young man

Andrew found Taken In Hand via a pickup artistry site. In this fascinating piece he writes about his journey through pickup artistry literature and other material aimed at men wanting to be more successful with women, and about how Taken In Hand has helped him too.

Sun, 18/09/2011 - 20:18
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Taking myself in hand: a personal journey with shared results

Stressed by arguments between her husband and herself, Kimmy1 searched the internet for helpful sites and advice... and found Taken in Hand.

Mon, 02/05/2011 - 17:16
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How cool is that?

Mr and Mrs Lucky had been married a long time and things were generally good, but they wanted more. Enter Taken In Hand...

Thu, 24/02/2011 - 13:31
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My husband being in charge helps in stressful times

If your wife were stressed and sleep-deprived, would what this husband did help (or not)?

Sat, 19/02/2011 - 00:05
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I won't settle for anything less

Don't miss this piece by FyreSpryte.

Sun, 16/01/2011 - 15:47
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Movie review: Stardust

Stardust is a great Taken in Hand themed movie that HerMan is sure you all will love.

Mon, 20/12/2010 - 16:26
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I'm not supposed to tell you this...

HerMan on male competitiveness and its effect on relationships.

Fri, 17/12/2010 - 19:27
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Discovering who we are

Joseph_K's account of how he and his wife discovered their Taken In Hand inclinations.

Fri, 03/12/2010 - 13:08
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Husbands getting started at taking charge

If you are a husband who would like to start taking charge in your marriage but don't quite know how to begin in practice, read this extremely helpful article by Socrates, who is writing from his own thoughtful experience.

Wed, 01/12/2010 - 11:40
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Checking his suitability

Why does your wife seem annoyed when you want her to decide which movie to see?

Wed, 21/07/2010 - 09:52
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Taken In Hand relieves tension and increases goodwill

In a perfect world, no one would get angry or bear grudges and any problems arising would be solved instantly, but in the real world, in real relationships, life is not always quite so perfect, and spouses sometimes make mistakes. The Taken In Hand idea doesn't just take this into account, it provides a brilliant – not to mention exciting – solution to the problems and tensions of real life in real relationships.

Mon, 21/06/2010 - 17:01
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Alpha male in life clueless in love

Sometimes what she wants is for you to think a lot more about what you yourself want instead of endlessly worrying about what she wants.

Wed, 16/06/2010 - 13:09
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How I overcame my obsessive-compulsive disorder

Contrary to what many believe, control in a relationship can be genuinely useful and good. For individuals with this inclination it has the power to solve real, intractable problems and even to treat or diminish the symptoms of OCD, BPD etc that make life so miserable otherwise. This, of course, goes against everything social workers have been taught, but the facts speak for themselves.

Fri, 28/05/2010 - 13:46
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The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman: a review

Nartie likes this book.

Thu, 04/03/2010 - 19:35
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He was horrified but now he is very happy

How things have changed!

Tue, 02/03/2010 - 20:42
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