How can singles make themselves more ready for a Taken In Hand relationship?

Because not everyone on this site is married. :-)

What Taken In Hand requires of you as a husband

Noone points out that Taken In Hand is deceptively simple.

Advice for husbands beginning to take charge in their marriage

Ezekiel has some fabulous advice for husbands in Taken In Hand marriages.

What is the best way to think about this?

This husband wants to know how he should be thinking about his wife and his Taken In Hand relationship as he begins taking charge.

Taken In Hand as opposed to completely docile

The Taken In Hand relationship is one in which, to the delight of both spouses, the husband actively controls (takes in hand) his wife, who may be a bit of a handful (as opposed to submissive/docile).

Song review: Stronger Than Me, by Amy Winehouse

What songs do you yourself associate with Taken In Hand ideas?

What would you have done differently at the beginning?

If you are in a Taken In Hand relationship, and you could go back to the beginning of your Taken In Hand relationship, what would you do differently this time? What advice would you give to couples just starting out?

How to avoid making your life with your wife a living hell

Noone urges men not to ignore the clues that a woman might want to be firmly controlled by her loving husband.

How do I convince him to take control?

When a man doesn't understand that a headstrong woman can want to be controlled by her loving husband, and that she might not be able to submit in the absence of active control on her husband's part, what can be done, if anything?

How do deployed military folk maintain their relationship?

Abdiel wants to hear from military families in Taken In Hand relationships: how do you keep your relationship strong through long overseas deployments?

Man who wants to take in hand

Many husbands like the idea of Taken In Hand but find it difficult, initially, to take control. Is Taken In Hand rational? Is it nice? Is it really REALLY something a good man would do? Or is it beyond the pale?

What if he is horrified by the idea?

Most men, including even the most take-charge, react badly when they first hear about the idea of Taken In Hand. The deeply consensual nature of the Taken In Hand relationship is not immediately obvious, and Taken In Hand appears so antithetical to everything good people believe in. The good news is that in many cases the relationship happily evolves into a Taken In Hand one anyway, despite the man's initial horror at the idea of being actually in control in the relationship. This article is a charming account of one such case.

Respect and cherishing

When a husband feels disrespected, how does he react?

A black and white issue?

Elly asks how to handle a delicate situation.

Can a Taken In Hand relationship be created organically?

Creating a Taken In Hand relationship may or may not involve discussion. In some cases, especially those in which the husband knows his wife very well, and thus has an accurate sense that his wife likes him to be in control, it is possible to move in a Taken In Hand direction more ‘organically’, as this husband suggests.

Just starting out

Newdaisy is excited.

Will the real Taken In Hand inclined men please stand up

A reader has noticed that not everyone is honest (perhaps even with himself).

Back from the brink

Don't try this at home.

Can you protect her, cherish her and handle her?

Noone points out that Taken In Hand inclined women want men to win.

A code you can live by

Hane hates the anti-man culture that surrounds us.

Resentment

This reader asks a question about resentment.

Needing to be pampered and cared for vs needing to be in control

Taken In Hand women tend to have take-charge personalities but want to be overpowered and taken in hand by an even more take-charge man who is fundamentally decent and kind and also treats them like a beloved princess. This can be difficult for many men to get their head around, as exemplified by this question from a male reader!

Choice Theory saved my marriage

If you know more about Choice Theory than Taken In Hand, you might think that the two are incompatible, but in fact they are very compatible, as Shelly41 indicates.

How long have you felt like this?

At what age did you first have some kind of fantasy or desire that with hindsight you can now see relates to your desire for a Taken In Hand relationship?

If you want your wife to give you respect, give her love

Warner on Emerson Eggerich's book.

How life's changed since finding Taken In Hand

One reader's amazing journey to what sounds like a wonderful Taken In Hand marriage.

Only been a week...

How soon did you notice changes when you and your spouse found Taken In Hand?

'Compliant': folding together

Is your wife compliant?

How can a man embrace his vulnerability in a Taken In Hand relationship?

This reader wants to know how the wife in a Taken In Hand relationship shares the responsibility for the relationship.

From exhausted single mother to happy Taken In Hand wife

One of the benefits of Taken In Hand is that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

Progress through the years...?

How has your relationship changed since you first found Taken In Hand?

Fierce women

A powerful piece by Hane.

Being the head of the household as a man with ADD

How can a man with significant attentional difficulties possibly take (and keep) his wife in hand? M.D. replies.

Is discipline a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship?

Christelle seems to be under the misapprehension that discipline is a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship.

What happened when I said he can take me whenever he wants me

Anyone thinking of adopting this policy of availability to their husband should read this piece.

Sometimes a good beating does both of you good

As this writer says, it is not a matter of fault-finding, but connecting or reconnecting.

Some advice for men seeking a woman

Libby says don't give up.

Forget 'ideal' - look for the real

Instead of being with someone with whom you have to act a part, find someone who loves and accepts the real you.

My journey so far, what I've learned, and how it's going - any advice on how to continue?

This reader's experiences are worth bearing in mind if you are seeking a Taken In Hand relationship.

What's wrong with weaknesses?

Louise calls herself weak, but in doing so reveals her strength.

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