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How can singles make themselves more ready for a Taken In Hand relationship?Because not everyone on this site is married. :-) A readers' forum post by RareGem on 2009 Jul 2 - 19:07 | add new comment | read article | permanent link
What Taken In Hand requires of you as a husbandNoone points out that Taken In Hand is deceptively simple. Advice for husbands beginning to take charge in their marriageEzekiel has some fabulous advice for husbands in Taken In Hand marriages. What is the best way to think about this?This husband wants to know how he should be thinking about his wife and his Taken In Hand relationship as he begins taking charge. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2009 Jun 30 - 07:06 | 6 comments | read article | permanent link
Taken In Hand as opposed to completely docileThe Taken In Hand relationship is one in which, to the delight of both spouses, the husband actively controls (takes in hand) his wife, who may be a bit of a handful (as opposed to submissive/docile). Song review: Stronger Than Me, by Amy WinehouseWhat songs do you yourself associate with Taken In Hand ideas? What would you have done differently at the beginning?If you are in a Taken In Hand relationship, and you could go back to the beginning of your Taken In Hand relationship, what would you do differently this time? What advice would you give to couples just starting out? A readers' forum post by pericles on 2009 Jun 10 - 19:41 | 18 comments | read article | permanent link
How to avoid making your life with your wife a living hellNoone urges men not to ignore the clues that a woman might want to be firmly controlled by her loving husband. How do I convince him to take control?When a man doesn't understand that a headstrong woman can want to be controlled by her loving husband, and that she might not be able to submit in the absence of active control on her husband's part, what can be done, if anything? A readers' forum post by Angie Kaye on 2009 May 23 - 02:10 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
How do deployed military folk maintain their relationship?Abdiel wants to hear from military families in Taken In Hand relationships: how do you keep your relationship strong through long overseas deployments? Man who wants to take in handMany husbands like the idea of Taken In Hand but find it difficult, initially, to take control. Is Taken In Hand rational? Is it nice? Is it really REALLY something a good man would do? Or is it beyond the pale? A readers' forum post by jcrane on 2009 Apr 29 - 04:47 | 17 comments | read article | permanent link
What if he is horrified by the idea?Most men, including even the most take-charge, react badly when they first hear about the idea of Taken In Hand. The deeply consensual nature of the Taken In Hand relationship is not immediately obvious, and Taken In Hand appears so antithetical to everything good people believe in. The good news is that in many cases the relationship happily evolves into a Taken In Hand one anyway, despite the man's initial horror at the idea of being actually in control in the relationship. This article is a charming account of one such case. Respect and cherishingWhen a husband feels disrespected, how does he react? A readers' forum post by adamsrib on 2009 Apr 11 - 23:14 | 13 comments | read article | permanent link
A black and white issue?Elly asks how to handle a delicate situation. Can a Taken In Hand relationship be created organically?Creating a Taken In Hand relationship may or may not involve discussion. In some cases, especially those in which the husband knows his wife very well, and thus has an accurate sense that his wife likes him to be in control, it is possible to move in a Taken In Hand direction more ‘organically’, as this husband suggests. A readers' forum post by new man on 2009 Mar 30 - 14:09 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
Just starting outNewdaisy is excited. A readers' forum post by newdaisy on 2009 Mar 15 - 21:03 | 6 comments | read article | permanent link
Will the real Taken In Hand inclined men please stand upA reader has noticed that not everyone is honest (perhaps even with himself). A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2009 Feb 22 - 15:47 | 12 comments | read article | permanent link
Back from the brinkDon't try this at home. A readers' forum post by notperfect on 2009 Feb 11 - 05:36 | 3 comments | read article | permanent link
Can you protect her, cherish her and handle her?Noone points out that Taken In Hand inclined women want men to win. A code you can live byHane hates the anti-man culture that surrounds us. ResentmentThis reader asks a question about resentment. A readers' forum post by plumgirl1971 on 2008 Dec 18 - 16:13 | 3 comments | read article | permanent link
Needing to be pampered and cared for vs needing to be in controlTaken In Hand women tend to have take-charge personalities but want to be overpowered and taken in hand by an even more take-charge man who is fundamentally decent and kind and also treats them like a beloved princess. This can be difficult for many men to get their head around, as exemplified by this question from a male reader! A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Nov 29 - 21:11 | 8 comments | read article | permanent link
Choice Theory saved my marriageIf you know more about Choice Theory than Taken In Hand, you might think that the two are incompatible, but in fact they are very compatible, as Shelly41 indicates. How long have you felt like this?At what age did you first have some kind of fantasy or desire that with hindsight you can now see relates to your desire for a Taken In Hand relationship? A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Nov 22 - 05:29 | 26 comments | read article | permanent link
If you want your wife to give you respect, give her loveWarner on Emerson Eggerich's book. How life's changed since finding Taken In HandOne reader's amazing journey to what sounds like a wonderful Taken In Hand marriage. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Nov 21 - 15:15 | 2 comments | read article | permanent link
Only been a week...How soon did you notice changes when you and your spouse found Taken In Hand? A readers' forum post by Loria Amnekia on 2008 Oct 30 - 06:41 | 8 comments | read article | permanent link
'Compliant': folding togetherIs your wife compliant? A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 20 - 22:45 | 6 comments | read article | permanent link
How can a man embrace his vulnerability in a Taken In Hand relationship?This reader wants to know how the wife in a Taken In Hand relationship shares the responsibility for the relationship. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 15 - 12:52 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
From exhausted single mother to happy Taken In Hand wifeOne of the benefits of Taken In Hand is that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 5 - 05:44 | 4 comments | read article | permanent link
Progress through the years...?How has your relationship changed since you first found Taken In Hand? A readers' forum post by pericles on 2008 Sep 16 - 06:16 | 10 comments | read article | permanent link
Fierce womenA powerful piece by Hane. Being the head of the household as a man with ADDHow can a man with significant attentional difficulties possibly take (and keep) his wife in hand? M.D. replies. Is discipline a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship?Christelle seems to be under the misapprehension that discipline is a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship. What happened when I said he can take me whenever he wants meAnyone thinking of adopting this policy of availability to their husband should read this piece. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Aug 16 - 01:53 | 17 comments | read article | permanent link
Sometimes a good beating does both of you goodAs this writer says, it is not a matter of fault-finding, but connecting or reconnecting. A readers' forum post by Whipit on 2008 Aug 15 - 01:39 | 25 comments | read article | permanent link
Some advice for men seeking a womanLibby says don't give up. Forget 'ideal' - look for the realInstead of being with someone with whom you have to act a part, find someone who loves and accepts the real you. My journey so far, what I've learned, and how it's going - any advice on how to continue?This reader's experiences are worth bearing in mind if you are seeking a Taken In Hand relationship. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Aug 10 - 19:00 | 4 comments | read article | permanent link
What's wrong with weaknesses?Louise calls herself weak, but in doing so reveals her strength. A readers' forum post by Louise C on 2008 Aug 7 - 07:58 | 12 comments | read article | permanent link
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