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Woman whispererIf you are a single man looking for a woman with whom to develop a Taken In Hand relationship, don't reject women who need to be brought to submission. A question of commitment - will he be there when she needs him?Noone, on the importance of commitment. A kiss on the handKatriel relates a story about a wedding. Why being married beats playing the pickup gameIn this fascinating piece, JB says that he finds marriage preferable to playing multiple women because in his Taken In Hand marriage he is firmly in control whereas in the game of pickup he felt controlled by the women and by the performance required in playing the pickup game. The equality of inequalityA Taken In Hand relationship may not look equal, Hane says, but in a sense there is no more equal relationship than a Taken In Hand one. Seeking a Taken In Hand relationship?If you are looking for a Taken In Hand relationship, hit the read article link. 2008 Apr 23 - 23:30 | read article | permanent link
What has your husband done for you this last week?This reader urges all Taken In Hand wives to focus on the positive in their marriage by writing a weekly list of five specific, concrete positive things about their husband. What a good idea! A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Apr 22 - 16:42 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
What has your wife done for you this week?This reader urges all husbands to focus on the positive in their marriage by writing a weekly list of five specific, concrete positive things about their wife. What a good idea! A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Apr 22 - 16:39 | 2 comments | read article | permanent link
Why she wouldn't talk about it - and why she is talking about it nowFor years, CarlF's wife Elle didn't want to talk about their Taken in Hand relationship, but now she is willing to talk freely. How to handle it when your man is deeply depressed or otherwise troubledChezs_girl seeks some helpful advice. A readers' forum post by Chezs_girl on 2008 Apr 1 - 20:13 | 5 comments | read article | permanent link
Is it possible to have a bedroom-only Taken in Hand relationship?A Taken In Hand relationship in fantasy only? How do we feel about men who cry?Uncomfortable with crying men? Healing the past, improving the futureA reader's journey to Taken In Hand. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Mar 19 - 07:48 | 2 comments | read article | permanent link
Will being taken in hand mean losing part of myself?I hope there will be many replies to this question, from individuals in Taken In Hand relationships. A readers' forum post by Ambivalence on 2008 Mar 12 - 03:44 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
Just do what comes naturallyIt would be nice if more individuals still hiding their natural inclination for a Taken In Hand relationship were to become more honest about themselves with those they love or with those they might love. A readers' forum post by TrueAlphaMale on 2008 Mar 8 - 17:45 | 10 comments | read article | permanent link
Holding the hand that spanks meHow Belle and her husband found themselves holding hands... Do you show your appreciation when she obeys?As this piece by Junie C. shows, a little ‘positive reinforcement’ can work wonders. How my mousy man became a lionBelle's post will give hope to many. How to get stuff done around the house without naggingMouseybabe and her husband have found a positive, effective way to communicate their wishes for x or y to be done around the house – and there is zero nagging or ‘reminding’ involved. Can a taken in hand woman be a sexual subordinate and sexually agressive?Dynomite with a dynomite post. A readers' forum post by dynomite on 2008 Feb 8 - 17:27 | 12 comments | read article | permanent link
Parents or childless: a world of differenceCouples with children may be limited in obvious respects, but there is a lot of enjoyment and excitement to be had in subtle, private communications, if you think creatively. Explicit consent - finally!CarlF's stimulating account of how his wife made it clear that she is in fact consenting. Reality is in the eye of the beholderThe fact that there is consent does not mean that the woman is really in charge, as Louise explains. A readers' forum post by Louise C on 2008 Jan 27 - 12:22 | 6 comments | read article | permanent link
Circumventing consent in a Taken In Hand relationshipMen wanting to know what Taken In Hand calls for should read this post. So many Taken In Hand women wish for precisely what CarlF's wife has expressed. Looking for Taken In Hand 'How To' instructionsJohnny wants clear, specific instructional guidance to help him further implement Taken In Hand ideas with his wife. A readers' forum post by Johnny on 2008 Jan 22 - 11:02 | 12 comments | read article | permanent link
The heartache of fearing you will never find someone to loveDusty wishes she was in a relationship, like so many lucky people here. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Jan 8 - 15:26 | 16 comments | read article | permanent link
Ready and willingSmitten and her husband have moved to a higher realm in their relationship. White-hot absolutionJames on his evolving Taken In Hand relationship. Why won't he spank me when he's angry?CarlF explains why it is difficult for many husbands. Jealousy and possessiveness -- necessarily bad?Whilst it is obvious that jealousy and possessiveness can in some cases be a very bad thing, in moderation such feelings are natural and can be used to enhance rather than destroy a good relationship. A readers' forum post by amethyst angel on 2007 Dec 28 - 19:52 | 9 comments | read article | permanent link
My husband is my master but I am no slaveAugustina has no desire to be a slave, but she does like the idea of her husband being her master. Call for postsPlease submit articles to help get this site going again. But first click on the 'read article' link for further information about what we are looking for. This site no more? New hostWe now have a new host. Many thanks to all those who offered help and encouragement along the way. Thanks especially to the reader whose generous donation has made it possible for us to use Dreamhost. When a man takes charge, his wife no longer rejects him sexuallyWhen Edwina and her husband discovered Taken In Hand and the idea of the wife being sexually available to the husband, the benefits were many, as this article shows. Her husband had been rather passive and tentative, and had suffered from feelings of rejection when that approach had not thrilled Edwina. The last thing many women (Taken In Hand type women, anyway) want is to be asked whether they are tired as a way of asking tentatively for sex. What they want is to be firmly taken by a man. They don't want to be in the position of giving permission, and the passivity and timidity and pathetic pleading nature of such interactions can be viscerally repulsive and result in the very rejection the man feared in the first place. Body worship and male dominanceDeeMarie's long-awaited piece. A readers' forum post by DeeMarie on 2007 Nov 15 - 01:38 | 27 comments | read article | permanent link
Mountain or molehill?Does Nanaith need to walk away – or does she have impossibly high standards? A readers' forum post by Nanaith on 2007 Nov 11 - 11:18 | 17 comments | read article | permanent link
Is Taken in Hand too unique?Don't lose hope. How to make your marriage good when life is badTaken In Hand in times of stress. A readers' forum post by living JOYfully on 2007 Nov 7 - 21:36 | 1 comment | read article | permanent link
Growing old colourfullyLouise has been dying her hair again, but what does her husband think? |